17 Weeks: Little Man

March 27, 2012

Two little reflections on finding out we’re having a little BOY!

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I was walking on the downtown mall this week and noticed a cute man pick up a little boy. They were dressed alike and looked alike, and that’s when it hit me: the best thing about having a little boy is that he is a little Matt! I’ve always known that having a child who was half Matt’s would mean so much to me, and having a boy gives him an edge on my female genes because he’s a boy.

Of course I realize our little boy might look more like me or act nothing like his dad, but there’s no denying that Matt’s genes will be in there and I’m sure some of him will come out, whether it’s via nature or nurture. Heck, even the bears have some of his male personality!

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I Want To Write You A Love Song

Recently this song came onto my Norah Jones Pandora station:

The song is about a dog, but as I was listening, I missed the part about the “man” having “forefeet” and thought for a minute she could be singing to a baby!

You never lie and you don’t cheat
And you don’t have any baggage tied to your forefeet little feet
Do I deserve to be the one who will feed you breakfast, lunch and dinner
And take you to the park at dawn [in your BOB stroller]

I just love the jazzy song and had visions of me singing it as a lullaby to my little man someday.

Which got me thinking about all of the love songs in the world that you could probably apply to a baby boy!

Boy excitement is getting stronger!

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{ 53 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Molly @ RDexposed March 27, 2012 at 8:06 am

Love seeing the bears! Hope they are prepping for baby.

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2 Jessica March 27, 2012 at 8:10 am

awwww that song IS so cute!!!! And I can definitely see how it would make a beautiful lullaby. Very cute :-)

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3 The Mrs @ Success Along the Weigh March 27, 2012 at 8:18 am

What a cute song and it would be a perfect little lullaby. You don’t have to mention the dog part until he’s way older and puts the pieces together! ;-)

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4 Reghan March 27, 2012 at 8:28 am

I love this because I know exactly what you mean! Every day I get more and more excited about a little boy even though growing up I thought I only wanted girls!! I’m so in love with the thought of our little boy.
I also loved how proud my husband was calling all his friends almost as soon as we got out of the room telling them “it’s a boy!” with a huge grin on his face. I’m sure he would have been just as happy for a girl but I know he was pulling for a boy which makes me even happier it’s a boy!
I’ll keep my fingers crossed for a girl next time ;) haha

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5 Allison K March 27, 2012 at 8:35 am

Ok. That song is about a dog? I honestly never knew that.
I plan on singing “everything possible” by Fred Small to my baby.

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6 Wendy March 27, 2012 at 8:47 am

So, I have this theory that a woman’s first son usually looks like his maternal grandfather. My son is the spitting image of my dad, and it holds true for many of my friends and relatives. Curious if it’s true for you, too!

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7 KERF March 27, 2012 at 8:48 am

Interesting!! We’ll have to see :)

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8 Jennifer March 27, 2012 at 9:19 am

Interesting theory. My first son looks a lot like my dad! He’s got the same build as him, his head shape is the same, his hair is the same color, same pretty blue eyes. What’s really weird is that everyone thinks he looks identical to my husband but I see my dad in him.

I read a book when I was pregnant with our first son and it talked about how early in your son’s life you will be their focus but around preschool age they shift their focus to their dad. It talked about how they realize innately that genetically they are more like him and they desire to be like him. I remember thinking how sweet…I want him to be like his daddy! And now that he’s four, I see it happening. He still adores his mommy but it’s all about when is daddy is getting home? can daddy read me stories? can I work in the garden with daddy? can I help daddy mow the yard? It’s really sweet to watch him mimic his dad and cherish their time together. Can’t wait to see your little man!

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9 Jeanette March 27, 2012 at 11:48 am

I agree! For about the last two years its been all about daddy (my son is 7).

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10 df March 27, 2012 at 9:53 am

That’s funny, that’s definitely the case with my son! Kath, I was curious if you have a plan for childcare once the baby arrives? Since you work at home, will you get a few hours of help from a babysitter each day or are you going to try to blog during naps, etc? Take care!

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11 KERF March 27, 2012 at 9:55 am

I have no idea! I think in the beginning I’m just going to try to do it all…ambitious I know. Longer time, I might think about having a babysitter (or perhaps Karen if she’s up for it) watch the baby maybe 2-3 mornings a week so I can work on my focused writing and things. And hopefully as the bakery settles even more, Matt can take a few afternoons and I can work at the bakery or do other errands

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12 Katie @ Talk Less, Say More March 27, 2012 at 8:57 am

That is so amazingly adorable; I’m so excited for you two! :)

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13 Angel7 March 27, 2012 at 9:02 am

It will be fun to see the new adventures the bear clan will have with your little boy :) I love to watch children play pretend with their toys!

http://faithfulsolutions.blogspot.com/

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14 Katharina March 27, 2012 at 9:06 am

Babies always get exactly half of their genes from each parent, so Matt’s “male genes” and your “female genes” will be equal in your son. I do think it’s cute to see dads with their little sons!

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15 KERF March 27, 2012 at 9:07 am

I’m aware of that – but I think since it’s a boy, it will probably look and act more like the boy of the two of us. Generalization, I know.

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16 Lindsay March 27, 2012 at 10:42 am

I actually look much more like my dad and have more of his personality traits. Not that I look like a guy, but we’ve got a lot of the same features (nose, mouth, eyes). My mom was excited the first time a stranger ever told her that she and I looked so much alike (I think it was when I was like 9). It will be so interesting to see who the baby looks more like and what sort of personality traits he picks up!

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17 Kaytee March 28, 2012 at 11:23 pm

Kath, I’m a little surprised at these comments of yours! You make yourself out to be quite the science nerd ;) Meiosis is definitely an interesting and random process: it’s fascinated me since I took my first university genetics courses. But I would hope that at least your baby has Matt’s.. uh.. male features :D

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18 df March 27, 2012 at 9:56 am

If you take into account mitochondrial DNA, it ends up being slightly more genes from the mom! Also, the X chromosome has a ton more genes on it than the Y. Yes, I’m a nerd. :)

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19 Sharan {College Girl Eats} March 28, 2012 at 11:23 pm

Yes! Shrinking theory! Genetics nerds unite! :) And yes, half the genes will come from you and half the genes from Matt. Hooray for proper meiosis and awesome gametes. As for behaviour, that opens up the entire nature vs. nurture debacle.

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20 Katharina March 27, 2012 at 9:28 am

Oh okay, sorry. I didn’t get what you meant in your post. Babies are more likely to look like their father…from an evolutionary standpoint, mothers know that the baby is theirs but fathers can’t be positive so they are more likely to bond with a baby that looks like them.

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/22/health/22real.html

So you may end up with a mini-Matt after all!

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21 KERF March 27, 2012 at 9:33 am

Cool article!! I also heard (somewhere) that the more people tell a father that the baby looks like him, the more he bonds with it. So we should always tell dads that even if it’s not true for ultimate bonding!

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22 Linda March 27, 2012 at 12:00 pm

That is very interesting indeed. My daughter looks exactly like my husband. She’s been his “mini-me” since birth. So anxious to see who our next child will look like.

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23 Penny March 27, 2012 at 9:43 am

Ever since becoming pregnant I hear love songs and instantly think of my baby. I’m glad I’m not the only one! I was thinking I was becoming overly sappy :)

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24 Amy March 27, 2012 at 10:05 am

It sounds corny, but my oldest son is identical to my husband and it truly is heartwarming. My second son looks like me so seeing my face in him light up when he sees his Dad is incredible too.

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25 Carolyn @ Eat.Live.Be Well March 27, 2012 at 10:08 am

ha. That Nora song is definitely talking about a dog… comparing a pot smoking man, vegan man to her meat eating dog and how the dog wins out every time.

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26 Averie @ Averie Cooks March 27, 2012 at 10:30 am

And you’re going to love watching Matt interact with your son. Watching your husband nurture and care for your child will make you fall in love with your husband all over again in a new and even more awesome way I think. It’s just so special to watch the father-child bond develop.

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27 Melissa @ HerGreenLife March 27, 2012 at 10:48 am

I seriously considered James as a name for our little guy so I could sing “Sweet Baby James” all the time. Anyway, it’s still too early to tell who our son (now 8 months) will resemble more — we’re not even sure whether he’ll end up fair (like me) or dark (like my husband), but we’re both tall and thin, so he has a good shot at both of those characteristics.

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28 Sarah @BlondeBostonian March 27, 2012 at 10:50 am

I was listening to Dave Barnes’ new album this weekend and I heard this song and immediately thought of you, Kath. It’s a father singing a song to his unborn son and welcoming him to their family. Super cute. “One of Us” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfxL7ef-rEE

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29 KERF March 27, 2012 at 10:59 am

Love it!

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30 Alicia March 27, 2012 at 11:02 am

If you want a beautiful song to someday sing to your son, listen to the song “Beautiful Boy.” it was originally written by John Lennon for his son. My favorite version is by Ben Harper. I don’t have any children of my own yet, but everytime I hear this song it makes me think of my future son and singing to him.

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31 Monica March 27, 2012 at 11:04 am

Awww love it! I love following your pregnancy posts, it brings back so many memories.

A co-worker said to me before my baby was born (whom happens to be mother to a little girl and boy), “oh, you are having a boy? There is something truly special and unique about the bond between a Mom and her son.”

I think about that quote because it is so true. My little guy loves when my husband walks in the room, they are buds and make eachother laugh like crazy. But Wrigley and I do have a very unique relationship. He melts into my arms every time I pick him up and gives me this bashful smile that he gives no one else. I love our connection.

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32 Jeanette March 27, 2012 at 11:35 am

I loved how my son was a mini version of my husband. I remember walking up to them somewhere and noticing my tiny son standing next to his daddy: both had their feet slightly apart and hands in their pockets, one literally half the size of the other. It brought that extra little thump in my heart :) Also, I used to buy them matching t-shirts and although he may have thought it a bit cheesy, they would wear them together. He’s a pretty good sport:)

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33 Lindsey March 27, 2012 at 11:54 am

I have a little boy that looks exactly like my husband. (Which makes me totally happy!)
I don’t post things very often, but I just wrote out my birth story:
http://dishesndiapers.wordpress.com/
Sounds cheesy, but my little man truly is my whole world now. Can’t wait for you to experience how wonderful this is!

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34 KERF March 27, 2012 at 11:58 am

Excited to read it!

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35 Mom March 27, 2012 at 11:56 am

He’ll need a baker’s apron! I’ll put that on the grandma list!

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36 Kelley March 27, 2012 at 12:35 pm

Awe, that is so sweet. I can’t wait to sing little love songs to my baby. I need to learn some more songs actually. The only one I know right now is “You are my Sunshine” (I love that song!)

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37 Julie H. of Spinach and Sprinkles March 27, 2012 at 3:19 pm

Knowing it is a boy just makes it all the more real, doesn’t it?! ….I can’t wait to find out what my little one is!!! Eeeeek!

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38 Jennifer March 27, 2012 at 4:11 pm

I’ve noticed that many of the first born in the family look like the dad. Are you the oldest because I think you look more like your dad and your sister resembles your mom.

My oldest son is a clone of my husband. (haha) We joke and call him “CC” which stands for Carbon Copy.

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39 Jess March 27, 2012 at 5:09 pm

Hi – re the boys looking like dads thing – I noticed when my son was first born he was like a double of his dad – I was told it’s an evolutionary thing eg the stone age dad was reassured the child was his and therefore stuck around, but who knows haha!!! As time has gone on he now looks much more like me.
I have to say, I know this is soooo cheesy but when I hear John Denver ‘For baby (for Bobbie)’ it just makes me think of my son and I have never managed to get through listening to it without crying!

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40 Heidi Bundles Of Hugs March 27, 2012 at 6:20 pm

Aww thats sweet. Little boys certainly are special, no words can really express the joys of having children.

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41 Alexandra March 27, 2012 at 8:32 pm

Absolutely love this song & that fact that you related this to your little baby boy! <3
Great posts :) i'm really enjoying reading them!

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42 JessicaE March 27, 2012 at 8:50 pm

I’m having a boy too! I thought boy from the beginning and am SO THRILLED that it is true. And while my husband would have loved a girl as well, his excitement over his son is so beautiful. I love updating him on movements etc, by saying “Your son is active today!” or “Your son is making me tired today.” He just lights up.

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43 Josie @ Skinny Way Of Life March 27, 2012 at 9:17 pm

I love this post!! I have a 5 yr. old daughter and a 2 yr. old son and honestly when I found out I was having a boy the second time around I was upset. I have no boys in my family, I was familiar with having a girl for 3 years and my world was turned upside down at that ultrasound. The moment he came out and I heard his cry my world stopped, he pulled strings on my heart that no one else ever did. My daughter is my little girl and forever best friend but my little man and I have a relationship i will never be able to explain. You’re going to be an awesome mom and that little boy will add so much light to your life! Congrats again! : )

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44 KERF March 27, 2012 at 9:18 pm

Aww love how you described the differences!

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45 Jessica @ The Process of Healing March 27, 2012 at 9:54 pm

Awww.. you’ll have a little Matt!

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46 Cathleen March 27, 2012 at 10:33 pm

Check out Godspeed by the Dixie Chicks…sweetest little boy lullaby ever! I can’t listen to it without getting choked up. I use to hum it to my little man as I rocked him to sleep.

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47 KERF March 27, 2012 at 10:44 pm

Awww I remember that one!

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48 andrea March 28, 2012 at 11:25 am

My son looks more like me, though he doesnt NOT look like my husband. I loved having a boy first, I had always wanted it that way. He also has more my personality – fairly responsible (i say fairly as he is 12!), the way he thinks of others and is so considerate (not that my husband is not, but for a 12 year old, he is pretty spot on here!), and a planner/thinker – where my husband is quite impulsive. You never know what you will get, its part of the fun!

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49 Kate March 28, 2012 at 5:57 pm

The idea of which parent the baby will look like is very interesting. In my family, my brother and I both look a lot like my dad, although my features are obviously a feminine version. We all have the same hair, eye colour and skin tone. I hardly look like my mom at all — in fact people often don’t know we are related! So it seems as though it is always a surprise– the way the genes will combine.

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50 Natasha March 29, 2012 at 1:48 pm

Kath, I have a boy who looks exactly like my husband, and I always say: Two for the price of one!

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51 KERF March 29, 2012 at 1:55 pm

Haha love that!

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52 Karen April 11, 2012 at 1:39 am

My baby boy is looking like his dad more and more each day, and they’re growing ever closer too! I just get nostalgic everytime I see them together.

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53 Macy Clark October 11, 2012 at 8:01 am

I just love Norah Jones kind of music and that song is definitely perfect for a lullaby! I might try that for my little boy.

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