17 Weeks: To Do List

I know, I know, I have PLENTY of time! But I’m a list-maker and anti-procrastinator. And I’d really like to get the bulk of things done in the second trimester so I can relax in the third!!


So I’m brainstorming things that I need to do before the baby comes. Please help me add to this list with anything I have overlooked!

Complete a baby registry and figure out what I am going to buy sooner rather than later

Purchase and assemble crib and mattress [gah organic mattresses are expensive!!!]

Finish making nursery décor decisions

Buy dresser, side table and some kind of rocker/chair/glider and assemble

Paint closet and figure out closet system of organization

Re-do ceiling fan

Hang curtains

Attend childbirth class, breastfeeding class, and baby care basics class (all scheduled!)

READ LOTS OF BOOKS!! I have about 5 I need to read, including Ina May Gaskin and Bradley Method

Baby proof the house

Buy a baby gate

Hire doula

Write a birth plan

Research baby health insurance

Research cord banking

Research local placenta encapsulation guru

Choose pediatrician

Buy things for postpartum – like nursing bras or nursing pads

Install car seat (once purchased!) and have it inspected

Wash all new things

Prepare cloth diaper system

Take a nap

Pack hospital bag (I know this is waaay too early, but it needs to be on the list!)

Am I missing anything major!?


I’ve Got The Blues

Surprise Unveiled

The Shelf

Little Man

Live and Jive


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194 thoughts on “17 Weeks: To Do List”

  1. Just an idea so you wouldn’t have to make a special trip, you could take the car seat to your local fire department & have them install it. They should be able to show you the proper way & inspect it at the same time.

    1. Totally agree with this! It is SO important to get the car seat in correctly! I also agree with waiting on baby proofing! I would also suggest an Angel Care baby monitor. It has a motion sensor and an alarm if it does not detect motion (i.e. breathing). It has really helped ME sleep better.

  2. Kath,
    I saw that you have cord blood banking on your list. I work for a great company called Lifebank USA and we are the only cord blood banking facility that does Cord Blood, Placenta and Placenta Tissue storage of Stem Cells. If you are intersted in finding out more information please message me at my email and I can have soem information sent to you. (FYI I do not get any paid for recommendations, I just love your blog and you have inspired me in many ways).
    Thank you

    1. I suggest you look into delayed cord clamping instead of cord blood banking. Either way you bank it there’s probably a 99% chance it will be wasted versus the benefits of that blood going where it’s supposed to: your baby. Google it and you’ll get many peer reviewed articles on the subject. I’m no expert, it’s just something I’m looking into as I’m 20 weeks pregnant.

      1. That’s when you wait until it stops pulsing to clamp? I didn’t realize you couldn’t do that AND cord blood bank.

          1. I am not sure about this, I actually never heard of cord clamping and not being able to collect blood. The collection takes place after babys cord is cut so not sure but I will ask one of our Dr. and let you know. Im not trying to sell it but I think better to have cells in the future for transfusions if something happens then looking for a match that is not 100%. I agree, do some research.

            1. for whatever it is worth – my husband is a pediatric oncologist (meaning he works with children who would be the ones “needing” the banked cord blood when we one day g-d willing have the medical tech to use it) and he decided against doing it for our (now) 7 month old, explaining that modern medicine is advancing in ways where once cord blood “can” be used in treatment, we actually won’t be using cord blood in treatment but likely that a modification for our own cord blood as tx will exist as it isn’t sustainable to do cord blood as a modern answer to this issue. his research specialty is in childhood cancer and i am sure he could explain this way better than i could – but safe to say that he was adamant that we not do this as it is considered something fine to do if you have tons of money and want to be safe just in case but not something that is seen as “responsible” or “necessary” or even dare i say logical as there is not enough data. just make sure you do the research and make sure this is where you really DO want to spend (and then keep spending to maintain it) your money. i was confused and felt guilty NOT doing it. now – eating the placenta…that is something he would get behind! but again…just a thought. there is no right or wrong with any of this stuff. also, i’d wait on babyproofing – your style of parenting and what you want to restrict/let them explore will likely change in the first few months and i am pretty sure i mentioned this in a prior comment but when you do shades, make sure you do (or, i’d “suggest” you do) blackout shades. it is the best for naps and sleep which will be precious and a major subject for many months 🙂 we LOVE our chicco infant car seat (same one as daily garnish) and we opted to have the bare minimum of “stuff” for baby until we got to know him and what worked as he grew. one really weird note…the fisher price snug-a-bunny swing saved my sanity. i swore SWORE we’d never have a swing but that swing was brought by my mom when elliot wouldn’t stop crying and we needed an idea. it worked wonders and i’d use it again in a split second. he never got “addicted” to it, etc. it was just a great tool and i have heard that that swing in particular is magical for many parents. aiden and anais swaddle blankets – esp for spring/summer blankets. i leave these marathon posts. oy! sorry.

              1. Thanks so much for your [husband’s] advice Anna.

                And I just read about that swing in Fit Pregnancy – looked like a good one!

                1. one other piece of advice he’s give…have purell (or good soap and towels) readily available in your house at all time esp at the beginning for mom, dad and all vistors (if you plan to have any). dan (husband) opted more for purell in our house for guests bc data show germs are less present (likely due to poor handwashing with soap by most ppl but that’s another story). and look into having all those who will be in contact with the baby get the whooping cough vaccine (you’ll likely be offered this is at the hospital) and have matt get it (and your parents if they will be around often) as well. it sounded paranoid to me at first but our ped explained that adults can be (unknowing) carriers and it is a very scary illness for a baby to catch (i had no idea about this). we asked that all the grandparents get the vaccine as well. ok – one more thing – if you plan to BF don’t leave the hospital without having your latch checked by a lactation consultant (free in the hospital, 100-300 outside).

  3. It’s not early at all! Time will fly and before you know it all of that stuff will be upon you and you want it taken care of. I don’t know if this is a to do thing more than a general thing but if you don’t focus on your ab work in workouts, start. I can’t count how many things I’ve read that said lots of ab strengthening exercises made childbirth much easier. Also, schedule a postpartum massage! 😉

  4. take a tour of the hospital, and talk to them about your birth plan. Be specific, make sure they are okay with following your plan. For my sister she had to sternly tell them she did NOT want to be offered drugs or anything EVER. She verbalized this with them, and included it in written form in her birth plan. “Do not under any circumstance suggest or offer drugs.” She might have said that gas and air is ok, but I am not 100% sure. I don’t know how your hospital is, but up here they definitely needed to be told. lol

    1. Are you planning to deliver at Martha Jefferson? (or Hotel Martha Jeff!!! Love that place!) They supposed to be very respectful about your wishes for a drug-free birth, so it shouldn’t be a problem — but like Jessica said, definitely tell them upfront… Also, I recommend not saying “absolutely no drugs” — since this is your first child, you really don’t know what to expect, no matter how much research you’ve done. I wanted a natural birth for my son, but after 32 hours of labor, I was losing ground and an epidural really was the right decision (it was that or a c-section for me). So make sure you have a game plan, but also understand that circumstances may change and it’s okay if you end up needing/wanting something to help cope with the pain.

  5. I don’t think you’re missing anything major. That’s a great list! I know people think we have plenty of time but it’s really not that long. I just realized today I have 4 MONTHS until I have a baby. 4 months is NOT a long time lol
    I would rather get it done now as well while I have energy and can move and then I can relax in the third trimester too!
    I was just sitting here writing/checking my list as well haha it sure does take over your thought process being pregnant…but I like it 🙂
    I’m leaving stuff like buying baby gates and baby proofing the house until later since the baby won’t be mobile for awhile. Saves me some tasks on my ever growing list! Other than that my list is practically the same and I’m in the midst of all the nursery stuff now which is fun!

  6. That’s a good list! I would suggest waiting on the baby proofing (and gate) until the baby is showing signs of becoming mobile. Until then, you won’t need any baby proofing, and it’s one less thing to worry about right now. 🙂

    1. This is what I was going to say…there are so many other things you will want to get done, baby proofing is the least of your worries until they are mobile. Our little girl is 6 months old and we are just now starting to think about it as she has learned to roll to get places. But until they are crawling and opening cabinets and such, there isn’t a need to stress out about it quite yet. I just made sure I had the house super deep cleaned before baby arrived, that way I knew if I didn’t get to things for awhile at first it wouldn’t drive me nuts! 🙂 But your list looks great!

    2. I was going to say the same thing on the baby proofing. In reality it’s not something you need to worry about at this stage and baby-proofed cupboards/drawers are annoying to use, so I’d hold off on that for your own sanity! It sounds like you’ve got it all. The only thing I did that you didn’t mention was when I went into crazy nesting mama mode, I had all the couches professionally cleaned because they had never been done before. I also wanted to have the inside of the car done, but that didn’t happen! Keep in mind, of course, that neither of those things are remotely necessary, but it made me feel better!

    3. Ditto on this! I have a 2.5 yr old boy at home now and another little one due in Sept. With my son, we childproofed as we went along and his capabilities evolved. Plus, it helped me to evaluate what really needed to be childproofed, versus what didn’t, considering when they are in the baby and toddler stage you’re really not going to leave them on their own. I agree about how it may drive you crazy if you do it too early, and it’s super easy from parenting sites, books, and baby stores to feel like you need to proof every little thing or else catastrophe will strike. I think that a relaxed and aware approach is the way to go.

      On another note- are any moms of more than one out there? I’m more concerned about babyproofing the second time around, given my toddler’s affinity for toys that aren’t age-appropriate for a baby. And advice on keeping small toy pieces at bay? I’m worried that even being hyper-vigilant there will still be little pieces that sneak by me…the little guy can be crafty like that! 🙂

      1. I have two and they are just over 2 years apart – so close to the same age difference. We didn’t worry about it too much in the beginning – it wasn’t until the younger one was about one and they were starting to play together that we had to worry. That’s when we really had to start watching what they were playing with and making sure it stayed out of the mouth. So until the youngest is old enough to start playing with the older one, don’t worry too much.

    4. Agreed w/ the babyproofing etc! It will be awhile before the baby is sitting up on his own, let alone crawling! Babies also very often don’t even use their crib/nursery for many months (depending on what you decide to do concerning keeping them in bed with you, in a bassinet in your room, etc etc, personal choices, yaddayadda) so if you’re planning on having him sleep in your room, you do have some time to deal with the nursery as well! (granted you’ll probably be super tired, so you may want to paint it and set up the crib, but things like purchasing a mattress that he won’t use for months, or pictures for the wall, can wait if you have other things that are more time sensitive!)

    5. Gotta agree with all of these posters. Wait to baby-proof! Do it as you go along, when he starts getting mobile. Don’t fret with it now, there are other, more immediate things to think about.

    1. Oh I forgot about this one! I am definitely going to make a bunch of freezeable meals that we can pull out and thaw easily for dinners. My hubby is not much of a cook (besides BBQ’ing) and I don’t want to live on take-out lol

      1. I was just going to mention this! And/or also establish a system with some of your close friends to help out in the beginning as well. But that will help TREMENDOUSLY especially since you’ll be busy recovering and tending to baby and I assume Matt will be working at the bakery full-time still or at least not have time to cook most meals.

      2. Excellent idea, filling the freezer, but maybe don’t fill it completely. We had lots of lovely people bring us dinners and it would have been great to be able to stash some of them in the freezer, alongside our pre-prepared food.

  7. I think this list sounds great. I really wished I had completely read The Happiest Baby on the Block and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child before the birth of my daughter. Once she was here and I was desperate for some sleep I got several books and these were my favorites. I am going to read them both again from the beginning before the birth of my second in early October. Good Luck!!

    1. Just found the Happiest Baby DVD on Netflix – it was recommended to me too (the visuals are supposed to be very good)!

      Netflix also has breastfeeding and childbirth DVDs – I should probably watch them all!

      1. The five s’s saved my life and I was able to calm a screaming newborn in the hospital without having to feed him or give a pacifier(we didn’t try giving him one until 2 months old but now we call it “the mute button” lol lifesaver) we are still swaddling at 6 months.. Have Matt practice a lot ! I still can’t get it tight like my husband can so he still swaddles every night 🙂

      1. Ditto Happiest Baby. I reccommend the DVD vs. the book. Yay for Netflix! I checked ours out of the library and agree it was a lifesaver. I just bought the DVD for my sister’s shower gift recently.
        My list looked very similar to yours from 2nd tri and that was when I went all out. One other thing on my list was a tour of the hospital’s maternity ward/floor. Like where we go if we went into labor after hours(which of course we did!), which part of floor we would deliver on and where Mother/Baby was for after. It was nice to know and a friend of mine delivered early before her hospital tour and ended up with a C-section. She told me that she really had no clue where her husband and son went after the operating room, while she was still there, and afterwards in recovery. The baby was getting weighed, measured, tests, etc in the nursery area but my friend felt lost.

    2. We watched parts of “Happiest Baby on the Block” in our newborn class, It sounds AWESOME! I hope to watch the whole DVD this week. I think it will be a lifesaver!

    3. Totally agree on reading these 2 books before the baby comes. The happiest baby on the block was really geared toward colicky babies, but lots of good information. The Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child “method” was the single best piece of advice I got in early motherhood (my little one is almost 7 months). Sleep training is sooo hard, but so worth it in the end.

  8. One of my best friends just bought an organic Naturepedic crib mattress from diapers.com. It was a good price and had two day shipping free I think. They are very happy with it! 🙂

  9. Omg. You are giving me a panic attack. You have 23 weeks to go and I have 6…at the most…2 at the least. Aaaaaggggghhhhh!
    I do agree that making a general list is a good thing. Some things to include: figure out where baby is sleeping before you transfer him to his crib, and make sub lists for postpartum/ hospital bag. Obviously you have a ton of time for that.
    As for baby proofing/ baby gate you have a few moths after the baby is born (like 5 to 7) to figure that out. Bottom of the list.

  10. Amen to freezing the meals. the #1 thing a new mom needs is food. if anyone asks you what you want in the final days ask if they wouldnt mind picking a night and making you and matt a meal. cooking will be the last thing you will want to do. and you will be hungry all of the time! i would eat a bowl of cereal in the middle of the night the 1st few weeks.

    and def. dont baby proof yet. maybe just read up on it. you arent going to want plugged outlets and things out of place when it wont be necessary for like 6 months.

    once u get a breast pump, open it up and figure out how to use it. once u figure it out it is very simple but take the time to do it.

    newborn CPR?

  11. You should wait until a week or 2 prior to your due date before buying nursing bras, and then go a size up from what you need at that time. Just get a couple, your size may fluctuate a lot. You can also get a couple of those little bra extenders for the first couple of weeks as you may be your biggest then before you lose much weight and when your milk first comes in (I went from a B to a DD for about a month then settled down to a C.)

      1. I started as a ddd….you don’t want to know the nursing bra size I just bought. Start this process early. Research where you will be able to buy nursing bras. Unless your town has a specialty store chances are you will be buying from the Internet. I think I will write a post on my experience so far…

          1. Yeah, be prepared for your breasts to get HUGE. If you want brand recommendations, I like Anita. They’re available at Nordstrom, but I buy them on Amazon for about half the price. You just have to measure yourself to get the right size.
            If I were you, I would write the list in the order that things need to get done, with baby-proofing being the absolute last. I would also add figuring out a way for the baby to sleep in your room for the first few months. That’s what doctors are recommending for SIDS prevention and it makes breastfeeding so much easier.

              1. Why are you planning on doing this instead of having the baby sleep in your room with you and Matt? In my experience, nightime can be very stressful and the support of your husband is extremely important. Not to mention, men sometimes feel a disconnect from the baby in the beginning, so helping change diapers and get the baby ready for you to nurse can help them feel apart of the whole process.

                1. To let him get solid sleep for work. And so I’ll be as close to all the baby gear as possible. And because our room isn’t huge and having a co-sleeper, bassinet or pack n play in there would be pretty cramped. I think he’ll get plenty of time in the afternoons and evenings to help out and get involved, plus the weekends.

                  1. Is that really going to be practical, though? First of all, I doubt Matt would get solid sleep – babies cry loudly (my son could be heard through the walls and down in the basement!). As well, waking through the night is something you’ll be facing for a long time; at some point, both you and Matt will need to be able to deal with it, or else you’ll be spending a lot of time apart. It’s natural to try and think of ways to ensure the working spouse (well, working away from home!) gets solid rest, but trust me…Matt’s going to be affected, so you might as well be prepared to share the burden. It will make it easier on both of you in the long run, and will help preserve your good feelings toward each other 🙂 .

                    I also think that support and assistance from your spouse is really important, you’re taking on a lot if you expect to cover all the nights as well as most of the days yourself. You’ll be up for feeding, of course, but with assistance you could get some extra sleep during times when the baby is just crying and won’t settle, and for diaper changes (which are quick – dads excel at these in the night). Trust me, very quickly those extra moments of rest will become really important! Just as you’ll adapt to less sleep in time, so will Matt. It’s all part of being a parent, and experiencing it is part of really *becoming* one.

                  2. FYI, in those first few weeks (even with a fairly straightforward natural birth – I’ve heard it can be much worse with a c-section) I had NO abdominal strength at all and needed help setting up to breastfeed (which was every hour and a half at night, in those first few weeks!). Changing diapers was initially a two-person job as well and was required after every nursing. And my husband is a firefighter that works 24 hours shifts (so he needs his sleep, obviously!), but he wouldn’t dream of us sleeping separately indefinitely – he wants to be close to our daughter, too! But the bed in the nursery is a good idea, because these days (our daughter’s three months old now) if it’s looking like it will be a rough night my husband will go sleep in there once every two weeks or so (we don’t have a guest room). Also, parenthood initially can be really isolating and rough on a marriage, and I can’t imagine not being in the same bed with my husband for closeness and support. We have the mini Arm’s Reach co-sleeper which that works wonderfully (we have a really small bedroom as well)- now I never even have to sit up fully to nurse in the middle of the night, I just pull my daughter into bed with me to nurse and then slide her back afterwards.
                    Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, and congrats on finding out your having a boy!

                    1. Well we’ll just have to see. I’m of course not opposed to other arrangements, but we’re going to try this out. If I need support in the middle of the night, I will ask

                    2. Research safe cosleeping. I can guarantee you’ll do it at least once, even if you’re not planning on it (I’ve had kids in my bed for 3+ years lol). It’s better to set things up safely just in case it happens instead of passing out from exhaustion with a baby on a bed full of pillows and huge comforters.


                    3. I’ve listened to a few podcasts on it and definitely want to have a co-sleeper or something secure to put the baby in

                    4. The other great thing about having the baby’s dad on hand during the night is that sometimes they need to be settled by someone who doesn’t smell like delicious milk, their one and only favourite food. Imagine it: it would be like trying to go to sleep while someone waved a plate of warm chocolate chip cookies under your nose. If, after feeding and changing and burping and so on I couldn’t get our little girl back to sleep, handing her over to my husband often did the trick.

                  3. I slept in the same room as our son for five months so my husband could get solid sleep for work, too. It worked great for us. It was much better for one of us to be fully rested than both of us be out of our minds tired. He still got lots of baby/snuggle time after work, which is when I got a little time to relax.

              2. I personally think you should move the baby into your room and sleep with Matt. It is really hard to spend time with your husband the first few weeks and sleeping in separate rooms will make this even harder. I didn’t need my husbands help with the baby during the night BUT he needed me in bed next to him. My husband could also sleep through the babies screaming!?!?! Ultimately, its up to you and Matt. I just can’t imagine NOT sleeping with my husband;-)

          2. So I’ve been a KERF stalker for a while now, and the BERF addition is just too fun. I just wanted to add my two cents about the nursing bras: First, I agree with Eileen, you do need to wait til closer to D-day. The second thing is that, even if you get fitted 1-2 weeks before delivery, the band size may be a bit different, depending upon the degree of your rib cage expansion. I bought a basic sports-bra type one to wear in the hospital, and then in the hospital the Lactation Specialist measured me, let me try on multiple styles, and gave tons of samples. Look into breastfeeding support/lactation specialists at the hospital, or through your doula. lalecheleague.org is also a phenomenal info and resource.

            1. I really liked the Bravado nursing bras. Also, we had a twin bed in the baby room and also a bassinet for our room. Our first child slept next to us in the bassinet for the first two months and moved to her room when she started sleeping through the night (amazingly at 10 weeks.) But our twins grunted like little piggies all night long for the first few weeks and it was impossible to sleep with them in our room. I moved to the twin bed and used earplugs (ha!) so that I could hear cries but not grunts. All of that to say, I did not feel that either situation negatively impacted our marriage – you just do what works best for you and the baby. And like you said, when you need help, you ask for it! Having your husband down the hall is not that big of a deal!

      2. The ladies on Pregtastic unanimously advised waiting until after the baby’s delivered to buy a nursing bra. I don’t know how practical that will be since buying a nursing bra will probably seem like the most difficult task ever at that point in time but they were convincing so I’m going to take their advice. Btw I’m a DD right now too….I can’t imagine what size I’ll end up at!

  12. Start doubling your dinners and freezing half. It’s a super easy way to have some freezer meals made (especially soup and chili). You could also start freezing baby food – puree and freeze! We didn’t need freezer meals all the time (I felt pretty good and was able to start cooking right away), but it’s helped to have them there when we need one in a pinch. And baby food is really quick to make and freeze with seasonal fruits and veggies.

  13. Another vote for putting baby proofing on the bottom of the list and adding freezer meals. My daughter is 5 months and just starting to roll. You will have time to baby proof. The meals (and snacks) are essential. The beginning weeks are so overwhelming, preparing meals was the last thing on my mind. Easy to grab snacks are also important. The first few weeks was the first time in my life I had ever forgotten to eat! I never understood how people could forget to eat until then. So anything that’s easy and already prepared is great!

  14. I would add “research circumcision” to the list. This is a very personal decision for each family due to a variety of religious and social reasons. It’s something we didn’t even think about until our Bradley teacher asked us to research the topic for a homework assignment, and after doing the research we changed our minds completely on how we felt about the topic. Since it’s a medical procedure on your newborn, it’s worth doing some research and watching some videos before you land either way on the decision.

    Also, I found it extremely helpful to make up some healthy freezer meals before the baby was born, or line up friends or family for some dinner drop-offs. Before having a baby, my husband & I cooked or assembled dinner from fresh ingredients every night, but bringing a baby home completely threw off both our schedules for about a month (many babies have a routine fussy period during dinnertime/early evening that is nicknamed “the witching hour”), and it helped so much to have something ready to reheat for dinner that could be ready in just a few minutes.

    1. We already know what we’re going to do about circumcision (it’s the path that requires less research 🙂 ) so I could cross that off the list

  15. Posted about this TODAY!! I’m a minimalist compared to you but totally understand the list making tendencies!!!

  16. Take time for yourself ! You will never do anything alone or off schedule again! Go to the grocery store midday, take a lot of long exercise classes, paint your nails 100 times, buy yourself some comfy pjs to live in those first few months.. My boy is almost 6 months and it has been so fun but the only time I’m off is after bedtime and by then I just want to sleep too !! Add sleep in every day to your list too !

    1. Oh I agree – get a few really fun and cute nightgowns or p.j.s and a new robe for the hospital. It felt good to have something pretty to wear (and there will be so much photo taking so why not look cute.) Also, I’m normally a p.j. wearer but I found gowns much easier in the hospital due to bleeding (sorry if T.M.I.) and I had a breech baby so with a C-section gowns were better for comfort too.

  17. I think you pretty much covered everything that I can think of.

    The baby registry part may take some time to plan out. I would say to ask your friends or blogger friends who have children what items they think are important, because I know that I got so excited to in the moment, and had items on my list that I did not need. The baby registry part can be fun, but overwhelming.


  18. Good list – Baby proofing and the gate can wait…It will eb several months before the baby is mobile enough that you need to worry about these things. If you want tog et them out of the way, great to do, but if you guys start feeling overwhelmed, these can definetley be on the back burner….Also, most local fire departments will install the car seat for you. I would call them and check the schedule for that….I also wouldn’t go overboard with purchasing items related to breast feeding – nursing bras, pads, etc. As much as you want to and hope to nurse, it may not work out for whetever reason beyond your control – So maybe get a few essentials and then you can always have Matt run out and grab more…

  19. Hi Kath!
    What carseat did you purchase? Also, do you know what kind of stroller you are going to get? I’m having the worst time trying to figure out what kind of stroller to buy.. I want a stroller that I can use for everyday, and for light jogging/running.
    I need to buy and do most of the things you have listed too. I will be excited to share this journey with you!

    1. I registered for the Chicco KeyFit in grey (which a lot of my friends have) and decided on the BOB Revolution CE. The other stroller I was (am!?) considering is the UppaBaby Vista, which seems great for its versatility, but everyone’s BOB testimonials have leaned me that way (plus the BOB is less expensive)

      1. I’m also registering for the the Vista, I love it!
        Also, how did you decide between the BOB Revolution and the BOB Ironman? I’ve heard that if you really plan to run with the baby, the Ironman is the way to go. Any thoughts on that?

            1. I think CE stands for city and SE for off-road. I don’t do trail runs and most of my stroller use will be roads, sidewalks, pathways or indoors, so I thought the city sounded more appropriate. I had to remind myself that hard-core marathoning trail runners get BOBs so even though I’m not a city slicker, I am in comparison to them. the CE is lighter in weight and the wheels are smaller so it’s easier for transport.

        1. I am running 4-5 days a week with our 8-month-old and have done so since 6 weeks (with an adapter). I have the Ironman and LOVE it. It has a smooth ride and is pretty easy to push. The front wheel is fixed but as long as you are using it for running, it’s not a problem. And we’re able to fold it down and put in my hatchback for trips – though it takes up the whole hatchback!

      2. Just thought I would give you one other stroller suggestion. I don’t have any experience with the BOB, but I worked as a nanny for several families so I have use many different strollers. My friend has the City elite brand jogger and it is wonderful! She has the twin and you hardly even have to touch it to push it smoothly, all of the storage compartments are awesome and really functional. The other wonderful factor is it folds up like a dream! She could hold a baby in one arm and fold it one handed and this was the twin version! You might give it a look. They also have a smaller version called the city elite mini. Just thought I would let you know about it.

        1. Just realized it is made by baby jogger which a few other people recommended. So I guess you have looked at them so this is just one more big recommendation for them!

  20. I was the same way with all the lists, I kept it on my phone and it would feel good checking everything off! The one thing I wish I didn’t do ahead of time was buy nursing bras. Nursing tanks and sleeps bras were fine but none of the nursing bras fit, even now at 7 weeks postpartum things are still fluctuating. So I would hold off on cup sized bras until your body adjusts to your little one! And don’t don’t forget nursing pads. I like reusable at home and disposable out and about.

  21. I’m with you on wanting to get as much done early on as possible. I’m 13 weeks and we got the crib, mattress and rocker this week and got them assembled already. I’ve also started slowly buying things so that I’m not scrambling at the very end! You reminded me of a few things, so thanks for the list!

  22. As a mom who has had 3 C-sections (I hope you don’t but you never know) I agree with all who have said make meals ahead. My book club and Bunco group were great about bringing us dinner 3 times a week for 6 weeks (they made a schedule so meals weren’t duplicated) so I didn’t have to cook at all since on the days between we had leftovers. Even with all that help I still wish I had more meals made in advance though!

    I would not baby proof or purchase baby proofing items this early either. But your list looks great and you are so right to get most of it done before 3rd trimester.

    We found a great online price on organic crib mattress but I can’t remember where. If it comes to me I will email you!

  23. Oh the other thing that you might want to do is make sure to per-sterilize your breast pump attachments (probably closer to delivery time). I ended up needing to use mine in the hospital (they didn’t have enough on hand at the time) and hubby ended up having to sterilize them in the family lounge. No big deal, but nice to know you have it done before you need it.

  24. Yikes; you officially have me freaked out! I realized today that being 24 weeks means I have 16 weeks left…which really is not so much! My friend made me feel so productive this week when she saw what we have of the nursery, painted, dresser and changing table. (she’s like 17 weeks and was freaking out at how much I had done) I guess this is karma!

  25. Are you going to get a baby monitor? You might want one so the baby can be sleeping upstairs, and you guys can be out on the porch/in the yard, etc, and hear when he wakes up.
    Also, add to the postpartum list- heavy pads!

      1. You should check out this monitor:


        It’s being released soon. My DH uses the blood pressure monitor, and we also have the scale. I’ve been really impressed with both, and if I needed a baby monitor (we’re well past that stage) it’s one I would have my eye on. It’s definitely not a need, just a want! 🙂

        (though I would class a monitor in general as a need, for sure! I could always hear the actual cries from afar, but it was nice to hear the shifting around and little noises that signaled my son was waking – it often let me catch him before the cries started).

  26. slow down on the cloth diapers and the clothes! For cloth, I found that newborns don’t fit into AIO cloth diapers very well and usually need a newborn cloth. Wait until baby is born, go to a a store and do a trial (usually 2 weeks or 30 days) and see what you like and how each diaper works. We tried bumgenius 4.0s and it turns out our girl is tiny and narrow — I actually a love a lot of woman made at home diapers that have a trimmer fit. We also love fuzzibunz elites since they are narrow. Trust me, it’s easy to get into it and nothing you should plan for while pregnant.

    Don’t worry about baby clothes or your clothes! Babies only need a few onesies and blankets. Your baby could be large or small and might grow fast or slow. Sizing is not consistent among brands! I thought I would have a baby who would be big, she was only 6lbs at birth (super healthy) and at 11 months, still fits into some 9 mos stuff. My friend has a large baby who at 3 months fits into 6 months. With seasons it makes no sense to get ahead of yourself.

    Also, don’t get nursing bras and tanks until post baby. You might not like what you buy now and your return window is closed. Target nursing tanks are a cheap fix but slow down on bras since you don’t know what size you’ll be and what will be comfy.

  27. Great list! Helps me realize how much I have to get going on with our preparations! I’m in a bit of a lull because my showers aren’t until the end of July (when I’ll be 37 weeks, gasp!) so I plan on only buying the crib and mattress, and any other major furniture for the baby before those, as well as painting and prepping the babies.

    We also went with the KeyFit in Gray (or romantic as they call it!) My friend has it and LOVES it. We also are get the Fuego stroller, should be arriving any day, I’ll let you know my thoughts on it, fits the keyfit perfectly, has 3 wheels so it can be used for all terrain (great wooded path near us!)

    Best of luck! I might start knocking a few things off my list today in the babies room thanks to your motivation!

  28. Ina May Gaskin’s books are wonderfully inspiring. Read them on days when you’re feeling nervous about labour.

  29. I’d like to put in another vote to wait on the babyproofing. Not only is out unnecessary for the first several months after the baby arrives you also won’t really get a sense of how much baby proofing is necessary until you get to know your baby’s personality. Some kids are all over the place requiring you to put latches on all your cabinets, doors and drawers others will listen when you tell them no to go in those places making it necessary to babyproof only electric sockets and cleaning supplies. Every parent I know who chose to babyproof before the baby’s birth over did it and curses the decision as they struggle to get a spoon out of the drawer to eat breakfast every morning.

  30. Yay for anti-procrastination! So, from your list I would actually remove baby proofing… You won’t need a baby gate for a while either. Obviously, don’t have blinds cords hanging down by his crib and things like that but things like cabinet locks, door handle covers, etc., can wait a while.

    Also add an “s” to that nap 😉

  31. Don’t wash all new clothes/things! Wash some, but not all. That way you can return, give to others, or donate more easily. You won’t use everything you receive.

    I disagree with the above commenters about cloth diapers. You received an AWESOME stash. I’d try my best to make that work before purchasing and trying out different ones. Seriously, I have 15 and it’s plenty. I did use prefolds and covers in the beginning for a snugger fit, but with my (small) baby was able to start using the pockets and AIO at 3 weeks. That being said, other than washing them, there’s not really much else you can do with those diapers until the baby is here. I think you can cross that item from your list :-).

    We really loved the Dunstan Baby Language DVD, the Happiest Baby on the Block DVD/Book. It’s more important to focus on the raising of the baby than the labor and delivery. It’s like spending so much time planning your wedding, but not your marriage.

  32. Ha! I love that “take a nap” is on that list. So true, do that one often. 🙂

    I bought tons of nursing pads, bras, tanks, tops and all sorts of pads for down there before I gave birth. But keep the receipts bc I ended up not needing any nursing pads (some women never leak @ all) and since I couldn’t return them they went to a friend. Oh and boy shorts are super comfy after delivery & help keep those monster pads in their place. Also lanolin is amazing for sore, dry nips (use before every shower & after nursing) I did that & never had any cracks or sores.

  33. Get your breast pump – and know how it works, parts, etc. I thought I would have more time to do this, but ended up having to pump at the hospital (using theirs) but then came home and had to use it right away to get supply going. You just never know if it is something you will need sooner rather than later, so it is good to have ready and be somehwhat prepared to use. Makes it easier than unwrapping it and dealing with a brand new appliance the first week when you are a total zombie. Order a few nursing tops right away too. They will be great to have when you have nothing but visitors the first few weeks and you’re still getting the hang of nursing.

  34. I was just reading a wonderful article about newborn chiropractic care, which might be of interest to you.

    Maybe look into finding a good licensed lactation consultant, just in case?

  35. You really don’t have to baby proof the house until the baby is MONTHS old. We did baby proof until my son showed signs that he’d start crawling (at 7 months) and even then it was a while before any thing we baby proofed was something he could actually get to.

  36. I know this might be TMI for some people, but a friend gave me a little “kit” before I gave birth and it saved my life. Buy a stool softener, in pill form. I know, its gross but at my hospital they only gave me enough to last my stay (which was a day and a half). When you get home you will need them still no matter what kind of birth you had- mine was easy and no stitches but you are still bruised. AND more than anything it’s for your mental state. There is NOTHING worse than having to go but being afraid to.
    Also, someone said heavy pads for the postpartum- yes! But also bring a few to the hospital as I found the ones they give you don’t really fit well and hinder you from moving about.

    1. I read that too and think she did a really poor job trying to figure out WHY she had a reaction. Was it herbs in her specific pills? Another medicine’s interaction? I’m not all that convinced it was the placenta itself.

      1. I know this might turn some people off BUT, my husband took my placenta and put in through the vita mix, and than poured it into ice cube trays and stuck it in the freezer. I would put a couple of cubes in a smoothie. Didnt taste it one bit and it just looked like frozen berries.

        1. I sure is cheaper and easier than encapsulation. I think I really could do this and while it is really gross, it’s not that unthinkable!

  37. I like the fact that you are an anti-procrastinator. The earlier you make the list the more prepared you’ll be… even though I’ve heard you can never be 100% prepared. But you can try right! 🙂

  38. Sounds like a great list! I’m a list maker too and a MEGA nester. The second time around is harder to stay still because I know what to do so much better!!

    Okay, for the postpartum purchases make sure sure sure you get lanolin. Your nipples will thank me. I don’t know how people do it without lanolin but they are crazy.

    Also, freezer meals are helpful postpartum too. I made a couple weeks worth to supplement the meals people brought us.

  39. Are you signed up for Bradley classes? I ask because I see that on the list of books you want to read, and I have to say– the classes are SO worth it. We read a few of the books early on in my pregnancy when we were undecided about which birthing method we wanted to try, and even though the books were pretty helpful, I have to say, taking the actual classes has been so eye-opening (and stress-reducing!!). I’d definitely recommend them, even though they’re pricey and time-consuming.

    And I second the pre-natal massage suggestion 🙂 I’ve been getting them about once every three weeks towards the end of my pregnancy, and they are soooooo nice 🙂

  40. That list could give me anxiety and I already had the baby and made the decisions! Leave some things for the third tri, it’ll give you things to pass the time! And amen to the stool softener comment.

  41. This can be such an overwhelming time of life…the two things I’d recommend is REALLY know all you can about nursing. The birth happens once. The nursing happens 12 times a day…for months/years. You cannot be too prepared from classes to books.

    And vaccines. Know your intentions, with conviction, and why you’re doing what you’re doing, whatever your choices may be.

    And yes, naps and sleep NOW 🙂

  42. I know you are probably getting a BOB stroller but I have the Baby Jogger “Summit” and I LOVE it. Its great for walking and/or running and is SO easy to collapse and get in and out of the car… I can do it with one hand. Also its the only stroller we own use because its so easy to take places… I take it to the mall, grocery store, park, etc. Also the company is based in Richmond, VA which I like since I live here!


    1. I love the BOB (use it for the kids I nanny) but I just purchased the Baby Jogger City Mini and I love love love it. I am due in 5 weeks so not using it yet BUT I can collapse and carry it with one hand and it is so easy!! It’s only 16.8 pounds. Actually easier, in my opinion, than the BOB. But I think w/ either option you cannot go wrong.

        1. Exactly… I am totally NOT anti BOB. Seriously the BOB is a great product. I use it ALL the time for the 2 year old I nanny and it is wonderful. Just personally, when I compared it to the CM I decided to go a different direction. 🙂

  43. No need for a baby gate or baby proofing for a long time. You probably have almost a year before that would be necessary. You should format your list in a couple of sections, stuff needed to do while pregnant, stuff you’ll need to do before you come home from the hospital with the baby and stuff you need to do after the baby is here. Your list will look shorter and more manageable 🙂

  44. I don’t know if someone already mentioned this, but you may want to sterilize bottles and breastpump parts before little one arrives. Also, stock your freezer/pantry with food that is easy to toss in the oven or crockpot.

  45. Way to be on top of things. Lists help me stay sane, and NOT stressed…I hope it does the same for you!

    Few thoughts:
    – Don’t baby proof or buy a baby gate yet. You don’t need it, and you won’t know what/where you’ll hang out until later. You’ll have months to do that…and it’s nice to do it gradually…a room at a time. I thought I’d hang out in our basement/family room all the time…WRONG! Too many steps!
    – Put the baby gate and post-partum stuff on your registry! As a mama, that is one thing I always give as a shower gift!

  46. My babies are 9 months old and we still haven’t finished baby proofing except their room an the playroom (the only rooms that they’re in and mildly unsupervised) and we don’t have baby gates so I think you’ll be fine putting those off until baby comes 😉 plus gates are expensive! We bought all must have items pre-twins and put off things like toys, teethers, gates, kids dishes and utensils, things like that sowe could spread out later so we didn’t run our bank account dry in the pre-baby months haha although those are great registry items!

  47. In addition to heavy pads (I reccomend poise, not the full on diaper, but the ones that are for bladder control, trust me, your clothes will thank you) I also reccomend witch hazel pads and DERMAPLAST! (Oh, you will become really close with the dermaplast.) There is so much pre-planning going on, a lot of people fail to realize everything begins as soon as the baby comes out, it is no finish line. I was pissed none of my girl friends got nitty gritty about the details after the baby, but pads, witch hazel pads, huge panties, dermaplast and a small donut or pillow to sit on will make existing much easier those first couple of weeks post partum.

  48. Get a breast pump and figure out how to use it. I brought mine to the hospital and used it to help my milk come in with my first since she was having latching issues. Also, have you thought about a co-sleeper (or a really good lazy-boy?) While the baby can sure sleep in the crib right away, I slept in the lazy boy with both of my kids for the first 3 months until I went back to work simply for the ease of feeding baby in the middle of the night. Open one eye, latch, go back to sleep while baby eats 🙂 It think for our next I will look at a co-sleeper though, one that attaches to the side of your bed so that maybe I can actually sleep in bed with my husband!

  49. I just had a friend send me your blog because I am a few weeks ahead of you! (my baby blog is jourdanleighfam.blogspot.com). I was 20 weeks Monday and found out we’re having a baby girl Tuesday! I am totally like you, now that we know, I am ready to get everything started! My hubby & I are going shopping for our crib & other furniture this weekend. Very exciting times! I think I’m going to need to make a to do list soon too!

  50. Agree baby proofing can wait, but not too long. Make sure bookshelves and heavy furniture are anchored well before baby becomes mobile – you don’t want him pulling up for the first time on an unanchored dresser.

    1. Yes, this is the one pregnancy baby proofing must – that way you won’t forget. The other stuff will be obvious as baby gets bigger. We spent a mint getting outlet switch plate covers and our Charlotte doesn’t even care about outlets.

  51. If you plan to mail birth announcements to family and friends so people suggest having your announcement picked out in advance so all you have to do is add the picture + baby stats. Some also suggest having the envelopes addressed so that once your little one is here all you have to do is stuff and mail = less work with a baby.

  52. Okay, I really really agonized over buying the organic matress, but my god were they expensive! And with one of us being out of work and money was tight I din’t know which way to go. I researched it for hours and went back and forth. Then I talked to my friend and her co-workers who work in the NICU at our local hospital and they told me if not to feel like a bad parent if I wasn’t going to spend the money on the organic. None of them had bought organic matresses for their children.

    1. I’m wondering the same thing. They are soooooo much more. I don’t have all organic clothing…but I’ve just heard so many say that this is the ONE thing to buy organic. Torn!

      1. Pregtastic had an expert on (sorry can’t remember the episode right now…) and he said the organic mattress really isn’t anything special and it doesn’t make a difference!

          1. Found it…episode 144. It’s the Baby Bargains guy, and he quotes a pediatrician he works with on the Baby 411 book as saying that conventional mattresses are not dangerous, don’t give off toxins, don’t contribute to SIDS, but fear drives purchases so moms go for expensive organic.

              1. Good luck with the decision! Not that I think we should listen to everything Pregtastic says, but because this comes from the pediatrician who wrote the Baby 411 book, I think it has some weight!

      2. Since I have a 10 week old I just went through this process and in my research and in talking with a friend who does mostly organic/natural also, I couldn’t find a mattress that was truly organic. My brain is fried right now but I remember learning that it couldn’t be 100% organic because what covers the mattress is not organic or something like that. I would just make sure to research thoroughly before you spend a lot of money on something that isn’t what you think it is. Sorry I’m not being overly helpful since I cant remember the specific information. Good luck though!

          1. We got ours from buy buy baby, and ended up with the Monarch Crib mattress by Colgate because on side is firm for an infant and the other side is soft which toddlers prefer. It was more expensive (side note:you can use a 20% coupon since they are the same company as bed bath and beyond) but I figure will be worth it because we can flip it when our first is a year old, then flip it back to the firm side for baby #2 and so on. I’m hoping this saves us from buying another mattress for the 3 kids we plan to have.

  53. Postpardum list for u should include tylenol, stool sorftener (u deff need it even with an easy birth!), nipple cream of some sort, nipple soothies gel pads (I think by Lanolash or similarly spelled brand they SAVED my nipples and helped me breastfeed you can put them in the fridge for cool relief and they are reusable for 72 hrs, buy a few boxes!), breast pads (though I never needed them I didn’t leak), good nursing tanks (when my milk came in my boobs were so sore it was uncomfortable to wear nursing bras even)

    Somethings that helped me too: a waterproof pad (bough it at CVS) and adult diapers. I was using the pad under my sheets in case my water broke in bed. Well my water didn’t break in bed but it did break at home and I used it in the car on the way to the hospital because something they don’t tell you: when your water breaks it doesn’t just stop leaking after the initial gush! You just keep leaking and its super gross! Good thing I had a waterproof pad and disposable adult diapers to wear to help keep myself from leaking all over! I also used the adult diapers for the first few days postpardum in the hospital. They give you huge pads w disposable mesh panties (at least they do at our hospital) but I found the adult diapers to be much more efficient. Especially when they give u the ice pack pags, the diapers really keep them in place nicely. I know it sounds crazy but really they were a lifesaver!

      1. I agree w/this. My water broke in the middle of the night while I was sleeping. Thank goodness for the waterproof pad!

        I also agree with the commenters who said to read sleep books before baby comes. You won’t have time or energy once baby is born, and it’s such useful info if you’re having troubles. I wish I read some of these books and implemented more of the early strategies when she was a newborn. Just for background, she’s 4 mo old and is up 6+ times a night. You don’t want to live this if you don’t have to!

    1. YES waterproof mattress pad! With hormonal shifts, I sweated through my sheets for the first couple of weeks. That plus the breast milk (even if baby doesn’t sleep in your bed, you will likely lie down to breastfeed as some point) would make me think, 22 months later, of getting a new mattress if I hadn’t used the pad,

  54. Congratulations Kath! You’ve already gotten some great advice that I would second…don’t babyproof yet! I am kind of obsessive about keeping my house clean (or was, anyway!) and the first 3 months of my son’s life the house was a WRECK. It still is, much of the time, and he’ll be 6 months next week. With things a mess, and on no sleep, if I’d had to struggle to open the refrigerator door or the cabinets it might have sent me over the edge. And you’ll be doing everything one handed for awhile anyway! Also, don’t spend too much time reading up on labor and delivery. Read some, but if you’re taking a childbirth class you’ll learn what you need to know. Instead, do what I didn’t do and read up on infant sleep and breastfeeding. Trust me, the time to learn about these things is NOT when you have a crying baby and you’re flipping through the books trying to figure out if he’s tired or hungry! I recommend the Happiest Baby on the Block and definitely Baby 411- it’s a super readable reference guide. Have fun and enjoy being pregnant!

  55. I don’t have any kids, and I’m not pregnant, but the Ina May book is AMAZING! It really changed the way I see pregnancy and labor — for the better! Now it’s something I’d really like to experience, rather than just something I fear.

  56. Some things don’t need to be done right away. Baby proofing the house isn’t really necessary till they are mobile. You might find an extra 10 months of dealing with special drawer openers and knobs annoying and more hassel than it is worth. My guy is five months and we still haven’t done it or needed it as all he does is roll. Kinda hard to get into things yet. I say enjoy the time you and Matt have together and knock some things off your fun to do list too!

  57. Can I also add that researching postpartum blues/depression, talking about it with your OB, or looking into support groups or therapists may be a wise thing to have done in advance? I don’t mean to imply that I expect you to struggle (because I don’t! 🙂 You have no predisposing factors.), but, in my experience as a women’s health professional, the postpartum emotions and issues can occur so suddenly and unexpectedly, that having the resources at your fingertips might be reassuring.

  58. Kind of off topic, but have you seen http://babyli.st/ ? Great way to register for gifts. It creates one list for all the items you want from different stores istead of having registry lists in different places for different stores.

    1. I hadn’t seen that one. I’m actually using a similar style one. Maybe I’ll switch since this is baby-centric!

  59. I wish I had researched lactation consultants. I took a class and thought that’s all I needed to do to prepare but it didn’t go well and those initial days are so fraught with trying to get it right and avoid bottles etc. Even though my hospital had LCs and I saw them the whole time in the hospital, I needed more help and didn’t really get it in time.

    On that note, since for me it did not go well, picture screaming baby unwilling/able to latch and postpartum mama sobbing, we had to get bottles ready and my pump ready as soon as we got home from the hospital. And run out and find newborn bottle nipples. I guess I’d add that to the list. Just in case, but I hope that breastfeeding is very smooth for you.

  60. My two cents about the breast pump would be a warning not to use it too early – that kind of nipple stimulation can bring on contractions or labor. So, that said, you could buy the pump and familiarize yourself with the parts and such, but for me the best time to learn to use it was when our baby was born and milk was actually coming out into the pump. I could see how it was really working then. I think I played with it 4 or 6 weeks postpartum, then started building my stash at 10 weeks to go back part-time to work at 14 weeks.

    Now that I think of it, regarding the stash, you will hear lots of conflicting things. It seems you are mostly at home so maybe you don’t care too much about the stash, but here’s my two cents about that: 1)the milk drastically changes as baby grows – so ideally, for example, you don’t really want to have a huge newborn stash and give it to your 3 month old, as the 3 mo will have different needs; and 2)when you feed a baby from the stash, ideally you should be pumping when the baby is eating, to keep your body on track – as close to actual reality as possible. So I never understood having a big stash as being a great thing, because every time baby eats from it, you have to pump. For me it wasn’t that freeing. I could be away from baby, but I had to bring the dreaded pump and worry about sanitation. I know lots of people skip a pumping session when baby is eating from the stash, so maybe it’s not a concern for everyone.

    Finally, finally, in general: you are maybe going to have more time when baby is born than you think. Many newborns sleep A LOT – definitely not in long spurts, so YOU aren’t sleeping a lot, but during the day, they tend to nap every couple of hours. You will have time to run to Target for this or that (it can even be a fun excuse to get out!), to experiment with the breast pump, and to do little things. I actually felt incredibly motivated and creatively inspired during the newborn phase (breastfeeding hormones and coffee do that to me!) I think having a toddler is A LOT harder as far as errands and “me time” and such. (Not to be the person that makes you dread the next stage – I also REALLY love having a toddler. It’s just easier in some ways and harder in other ways than newborn – and the harder is having any “settled” time).

    1. I completely disagree. I had barely any time when my daughter was a newborn as she barely slept – she fought sleep with every cell in her body. It made life very difficult for me and I barely got a minute during the day to myself. So please Kath, don’t assume you will have lots of time! I dearly wish I had though.

      1. Ugh, you don’t have to disagree. You can say your experience was different. I wrote my comment very carefully by saying things like “maybe” and “many.” I think it’s important to prepare for the worst but hope for the best. I went into the newborn stage thinking it was going to be f-ing hell because that’s what so many people say. Now that I’m 20 weeks pregnant with my second, I realize it could be a very difficult time with this one during that phase, but I think it’s awesome to hear all the perspectives (including positive ones) because guess what?! It might turn out great.

        1. Nap when the baby naps is the best advice ever. And if you nurse you have a lot of free time once you get it down. Once we got the hang of it I was able to read during nursing (Kindle helped!) and I since my kids nursed upwards of 15 times a day I read massive amounts.

  61. My only comment would be try to put in some contingency plans/regular time when someone (husband, relative, friend) will come and have the baby and let you sleep. Until you have been sleep deprived with no end in sight to the torture, sorry I mean broken nights, you simply cannot imagine how desperate you will be.
    Also don’t give your husband’s need for sleep priority over yours just because you will be at home more for a while. I have worked, and I have stayed home with a baby, and the baby is sooooooo waaaaaay harder and more exhausting.
    All the right equipment, mattresses, seats, etc are important yes but they are nothing to giving some thought to your need for rest and sleep, prior to the start of the tor—-night wakings……..

    1. Totally agree with the comment re your husband’s sleep. My husband agrees that being at work (and he has a demanding job) was so much easier than being at home with the baby. Hence he did some of the night wakings. Now I am back at work, I must admit I see work as my ‘break’!

  62. Go on some dates with your husband. It’s never the same again after a baby (not that that’s a bad thing, but… enjoy what you have now!)

    And just so you feel better I did not buy a thing or see a doctor or take a class or read a book or decide much of anything with my first baby until I was almost 8 months pregnant!! And we did just fine 🙂 All the prep is fun AND great, just don’t stress too much 🙂

  63. I just finished workingon my ‘birth plan’ and I kind of cheated and used the ‘Baby Center Birth Plan’ check off sheet. I’m thinking of it as more of a guide anyways and not something ‘set in stone’. I’m sure there are others out there that are more detailed, but I like check-off sheets 🙂

    I’m currently struggling (still!!) on what type of mattress to buy, but I think I am going to go with a cheaper mattress that I found on Amazon that had really good reviews (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004044LD4/ref=oh_o00_s00_i00_details)

    To be honest, I have no idea if we are making the right decision or not with this mattress. I usually buy based off of reviews and this one had REALLY good reviews (most of the ‘bad ones’ were fitting issues). I’m interested to see what you choose though!

  64. Ah, you are a woman after my own heart. I heart lists BUT I can be a bit of a procrastinator at the same time. Need to work on that. But having lists makes me feel like my brain is in place and not in a million different places where it shouldnt be.

    Idea: I dont know if you plan on making your own baby food but you could look into ideas for that if you are interested 🙂

    Idea: Also, my friend who just had twins, likes to breastfeed but there have been some times where she just couldnt get her milk to come and obviously needed to feed her babies so she had back up formula. But she looked into the best possible one in the event that she needed formula for backup. It’s things like that where you want control of the situation but sometimes it’s out of ones control.

  65. Have you thought about a family practitioner instead of a ped? We use one and our whole family can see them, which is great when we all get sick. It’s one stop instead of taking the kids to one place and then DH and I going to another doctor. Plus they seem to be more naturally inclined and less drug pushy than straight up peds and OBGYNs.

    1. I thought the same thing…as a 38 week pregnant (with my first baby) family doctor myself 🙂 If you don’t already have a primary care provider you love I would definitely recommend a good family doc. She can see you for any basic primary care and gyn stuff, plus the baby, and know the family as a unit. Think about us 🙂 I’m actually having my own family doctor deliver me (not and OB or midwife) and love the continuity of her knowing me pre-pregnancy, pregnant, birthing, postpartum, and knowing baby too.

      …reading this is crazy, so much I haven’t done yet either! Cooking extra meals might be moving higher on my list, though!!!

      love your blogs, I’m an oatmeal fiend too.

  66. Hypnobabies is a pretty good system. I borrowed mine from a friend and really enjoyed it. The tracks really made me relax and feel confident about my pregnancy.

  67. New mom to a 2 month old boy here. I would definitely suggest reading baby sleep books before you have the little one. That way you are well versed on various techniques and interventions. It sounds as if you are leaning more towards an Attachment Parenting model which my husband and I were all gung ho about. Breast feeding, baby wearing, co-sleeping etc. Until I had low milk supply, and my baby hated ALL FOUR slings, carriers etc we bought him and woke up every 2 hours until he was 6 weeks old…we are successfully co-sleeping and I would also second the mini-co sleeper. Depending on the size of your baby, a crib is just too dang big. Books I loved but have now had to cram between, nursing, pumping and changing poopy diapers: Secrets of A Baby Whisperer, No-Cry Sleep Solution, Healthy Sleep Habits for Happy Children. Also, have on hand an exercise ball and purchase multiple halo sleep sack swaddles. Works wonders with newborns.
    I had an unmedicated birth with midwives. It was mercifully brief but definitely be prepared for things to change moment to moment. Parenthood will be nothing and everything like you think it will be. He will make you love life all over again. Prepare for your mind to be blown. It’s that crazy and that good.

  68. You’ve got quite awhile before you need to babyproof. We didn’t even buy gates until our little one was about 7-8 months old. The best method for us was to see what she got into and then babyproofed that. At 22 months, she has is mostly free range in the house, minus the kitchen and my husband’s desk area. It does help that we have a ranch.

  69. Totally not baby related but I’m curious what app you showed at he beginning of the post for your list making. I love lists and always looking for a good system 🙂 thanks!!

  70. As I read your list, I kept thinking – humidifier, humidifier! We had winter babies, and the air was just so dry. May be different where you live, and the month you deliver, but the moister air and white noise really helped. Also, a little white noise machine was invaluable. At first, we thought we were supposed to be so, so quiet whenever he slept. He was a total catnapper – then we realized things were just too quiet! The only noise that would soothe him was the sound of the vacuum or hair dryer – good bye vacuum after about 2 weeks! He was fussy from about 5pm to 8pm, but the white noise worked really well. And pack that bag! Three kids, 2 that came 3 weeks early, and never once did I have a bag at the hospital! So happy for your family! :}

  71. That’s a great list. One thing to remember is there are certain things you will not needs for months after baby arrives. High chair, baby gates, and baby proofing, etc. Baby will be pretty immobil for about 6 months and possibly longer. So perhaps you could start a second list for things to look into later. The high chair thing, that’s the one that is more flexible. Since they don’t recommend starting baby on solids for about 6 months (though I know many doctors now suggesting cereal at 4 months for things like reflux and sleeping and whatnot). But even still, until baby is fairly able to sit up and hold his head up, you won’t really be able to use it. If you get one, get one that reclines because then you can use it for your little man while you’re in the kitchen cooking. This way he can hang out and watch his favorite lady while she works.

  72. Your to-do list got me thinking- would you consider posting on how you and Matt choose how to handle the last name for your baby boy? I know you kept your last name, and have mentioned before that you hadn’t yet decided what you guys were going to do when you had kids.

    I’m getting married next year, and am still deciding what to do with my last name. Many people I’ve talked to have mentioned that if I changed my name I wouldn’t have the same last name as my kids, which has kind of bothered me. 1- because I DO want the same last name and 2- because it’s not entirely fair to assume my kids would take my to-be husband’s last name. I would be VERY interested to hear about how you and Matt make this decision.

    I know that might be a little bit personal to ask for, but I thought I would give it a shot and ask. I think it would be beneficial to many women out there.

    1. We are hyphenating. And I’m totally fine with it. I actually kind of like hyphenated names – they feel balanced and equal to me. I know people despise them, but I also think more and more families are doing it. And it’s the only fair thing to do.

  73. when you get around to setting up the crib… make sure you have 2 sets of sheets and waterproof pads on the mattress. then, in the middle of the night when you have a blowout or spit up accident, you can just peel off the top sheet/pad and put the baby back in bed. it’s so much better than having to get out new sheets and such in the middle of the night.

  74. Costco carries an organic cotton innerspring crib mattress by L.A. Baby for around $100. We used it for almost 3 years and loved it. It has an infant side and when ready you can flip it to the toddler side. One item I found very handy was a pumping bra, it enabled me to multitask and answer emails while pumping. Do your research early on nursing bra brands and the sizes they offer. I found several brands that only went up to the equivalent of a DD so if you are large to start with, your options can be limited.

  75. People might have already suggested these things, but here are a couple thoughts. First, wait until after you have the baby to get nursing bras. There is no way to predict your size (and your size will vary from the first few weeks to when your body stabilizes a bit more later, So don’t buy too many that first week or two) and you want them to be comfortable. You will be spending lots of time in them and a good fit is important. Lots of new moms find it is most comfortable to sleep in them as well, so that’s a lot of hours wearing it! Know ahead of time where to go buy them, but let that be enough for now.

    Also, easy food is the best once the baby arrives. So starting a couple months before baby comes double any meal that will freeze and pop half in the freezer. If you freeze them in ziploc bags (only putting food into bag once cooled) you can fit a lot into a regular freezer.

    Good luck! Babies are so wonderful!

  76. I know you and Matt will do a great job with the little one. Always trust your gut and take advice with a grain of salt. You will know what is best for you and your little family. I am enjoying reading your journey into motherhood. 🙂

  77. I’m such a planner like you! For what it’s worth, I got way too much done BEFORE the third trimester. I found once I got there, I was so anxious for baby to come and I had NOTHING to do to occupy my time. The clothes were washed, nursery together etc etc. I felt like I was going stir crazy because I had nothing to nest! I’d leave just a few things to do in case your little one likes to stick around in there like mine did 🙂

  78. Something that my husband and I did toward the very end is take a “test” drive to the hospital, timing it (and me figuring out how many contractions I would have to have during the drive…I would not recommend the latter), and then once inside the parking area put a PIN on our GPS so that we would just have to hit the pin and get there. I’d highly recommend that. As well as the hospital tour (this was part of our baby class)

  79. Great blog, Kath. I’m really enjoying reading through your pregnancy entries. I absolutely agree with the commenters who mention learning all you can about breastfeeding, if you want to do it. I have just finished breastfeeding my 18 month old daughter and while the first few weeks were hellish and excruciating (combo of my big boobs, an inverted nipple and her little tiny mouth) with the help of a wonderful private lactation consultant we both got through it and figured it out.
    One thing my lactation consultant mentioned that I will do next time around and you might like to look into, is expressing some colostrum in the days/weeks leading up to your due date and freezing it. When the baby is born, you can have Matt bring it to the hospital for a little nutritional boost for the baby. Obviously it won’t replace nursing during the first few days, which is so crucial for getting your supply established, but it can be helpful, apparently.
    End of essay!

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