20 Weeks: A Rose By Any Other Name

April 17, 2012

I’ve been thinking about what I’m going to name my kids someday since I was little.

I had many dolls and animals. Their names were: Janie, Sarah, Doodles, Bocker, Beaker, Churton.

Classics!

We have been bouncing around names for months now. There are a lot of beautiful names out there, but very few I can imagine actually choosing.

I tend to like names in 3 categories [So the name websites indicate!]:

Nature

Antique

H i p s t e r

Girls

A few of the girl names I like a lot [note Matt vetoed a few of these right away, but I’m including them for fun! We have a harder time liking the name girl names than boy names]

Ella

Ruth [Ruthie]

Lily

Violet

Iris

Flora

Pepper

Willow

Clementine

Hazel

Ivy

Frazier

Juliet

At least for now, I won’t get to use any of those!

Boys

Boy names we’ve tossed around have included [please note this list MAY or MAY NOT include the name we like the most at the moment, so I’m not really looking for feedback : )]

Asher

Dax

Max [Maxwell is Karen’s maiden name]

Potter

Davidson [nod to ye alma mater!]

Forest

Nash

Basil [pronounced like the herb, not like the Austin Powers character]

Baker

Jasper

Churton [street I grew up on]

Boy names I’m finding are so much harder!!

Family Input

My mom actually came up with the name Baker. Pretty appropriate for our family! In fact, she now calls the baby Baker Wheatsworth when she talks about him! I hope she’s not disappointed that Wheatsworth is not on the above list : )

Before we found out it was a boy, my Dad had suggested Dakota Savannah after our two most popular bakery items!

Karen suggested the name Breád Dakota. Here Bread is pronounced “Bree-ahd” in a fancy way.

Matt’s dad [Mark] likes Mark – but spelled non-traditionally for us new-age kids like this: “Mharche”

One thing’s for sure: we won’t be sharing the name with anyone until he is born!

Lastly And Lastly

And another non-negotiable: we’re hyphenating his last name to Younger-Monson. This isn’t up for debate, so while I know many of you probably have strong opinions about hyphenation, I’d appreciate it if you kept them out of the comments because we’re definitely hyphenating. We don’t think hyphenated names are the most beautiful either, but neither of us could imagine not having our last name as part of our son’s.

Since we got married, our families call us the “Younger-Monsons” and we both think that order of names sounds better than Monson-Younger. We debated for a split second to do something super creative and become the Youngsons, but since both Matt and I are very attached to our last names (why neither of us changed them to the other’s upon marriage) we didn’t think that choice really made sense, as it would mean a new identity for not only the baby but for us as well.

I WOULD like to hear your favorite boy + girl names! We haven’t really made a decision yet and I love hearing all the cool names out there.

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{ 494 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Michelle@PeachyPalate April 17, 2012 at 8:02 am

Ruthie and Max are my favs!

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2 jane April 17, 2012 at 10:38 am

same!! While some of the names you chose are cool, kids have enough to deal with these days without having some really offbeat name. Both you and Matt have classic names and probably didn’t have to deal with people making fun of your name. Ruthie and Max are not very popular (at least not that I know of) but are absolutely adorable!! Not too overdone at all, but still not too out there. Love them!

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3 Kate L. April 18, 2012 at 8:54 am

Yes – when you are naming your child, you are acting on their behalf in a very important matter. It’s not what the parents want, it’s what will be smart and good for your child. As this wonderful baby names book puts it “Knowing what you know about the world now, would YOU want to go through life with that name?” (from The Baby Name Wizard)

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4 char eats GREENS April 17, 2012 at 8:07 am

Very interesting about the last name thing! I like seeing different situations, such as you both loving your last names. I took my husband’s…but for me, that’s what I wanted. I think it’s awesome to be different!

So I wanted to say, that my niece’s name is Ella, AND my sis-in-law just had her third child (second daughter) on Friday and named her Ayla. I love how the 2 girls names go together!!

I think you have some beautiful options…and love that the parents are getting involved!! It’s funny that you put Violet on there because I thought my SIL was going to name the second girl that!! Good luck choosing

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5 K April 17, 2012 at 1:15 pm

Ayla is also the name of the main character in the Clan of the Cavebear books.. such a great character!

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6 Jen April 17, 2012 at 2:21 pm

I had my daughter 5 months ago and named her Ayla. I’ve only gotten positive feedback on it! I love the main character in Clan of the Cavebear…

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7 Jocelyn April 17, 2012 at 3:34 pm

I LOVE the name Ayla! That’s beautiful.

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8 Carlee April 17, 2012 at 8:09 am

Good for you for sharing the names that you like. My husband and I are keeping ours a secret for now, partly because of the whole feedback issue! I think I’m going to keep my favorites out of the blog world for now…but I will say that our list and your list have almost no repeats. Amazing how many names there are out there!

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9 Meagan April 17, 2012 at 8:11 am

Cute names!

Here are some of my favorites:

Girls: Layne, Shea, Kayla, Esme, Taylor,

Boys: Emmett, Cole, Stephen, Ian, Britton, Elias

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10 Andrea April 17, 2012 at 4:27 pm

I see some Twilight names in there 😉

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11 Lisa April 21, 2012 at 8:26 am

My son is 3 month old and we named him Elias. We call him Elias or Bear (his middle name) and grandparents call him Eli. LOVE. IT. We liked the name because of the way is sounded but once we found the meaning “the Lord is my God” we were completely sold!

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12 Christine April 17, 2012 at 8:12 am

Well I know you are not having a girl, but I am partial to the name Ella. Our first daughter is named Ella Grace and I love that name. However, the name is really popular now a days and it would not be a unique name at school.

We named our 4th child Andrew Parker and I love that name! It’s traditional yet different.

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13 Vicki April 18, 2012 at 12:31 pm

My 6 year old is Ella Grace, as well! 🙂

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14 Vicki April 18, 2012 at 12:35 pm

And about the popularity….it IS a little too popular right now but it also has to do with where you live. When we lived in California, we knew other little girls with the name Ella but in Missouri we don’t.

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15 kate April 17, 2012 at 8:12 am

It is SO hard to pick a name! When deciding a name we were torn. I wanted something classis and my boyfriend wanted something a little different. We ended up with a baby boy named Auden River Thompson. Everyone who hears his name always comments how much they love it and that they have never heard it before. It is actually an old English name meaning “old friend”. It is pronounced like the poet W.H. Auden. We are so glad we came up with something we think is a beautiful name but also unique. Good luck with the naming process! So exciting 🙂

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16 KERF April 17, 2012 at 8:13 am

Pretty!!!

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17 ashlynn April 17, 2012 at 8:13 am

You’re always setting yourself up for criticisim when discussing the name before the baby’s born. My BIL and SIL aren’t telling anyone until their little girl is born. But, then again, it might be a good idea to see people’s reaction to the name before you put it down on the birth certificate. Something may sound good in your head but others may hear it a different way. I’ve got a pretty weird middle name becuase my dad got a little creative. You won’t find it on any of the baby name sites.

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18 KERF April 17, 2012 at 8:14 am

But like I said, the name we are going with is most likely not listed here 🙂

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19 ashlynn April 17, 2012 at 8:50 am

Oh, I know. I read that part. I just meant a general “you” in the first sentence. Whenever names are discussed, people feel the need to jump on and give their opinion. That’s why it’s good to wait like you’re doing.

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20 KERF April 17, 2012 at 8:52 am

Gotcha!

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21 Megan Infantino April 17, 2012 at 8:15 am

Off your list, I like:
Ella
Lily
Davidson
Asher

Even though we don’t know the sex of our baby yet (we find out the 25th!!), we already have names picked. I’ve had the girl’s name picked even before we got pregnant. My husband knows I will not budge on this name – but we really likes it anyways so he won’t complain. If it’s a girl, she will be named Eva Marie. Eva was my grandmother’s name – she raised me. And Marie is my middle name. If it’s a boy, we are naming him after my husband. Michael Joseph. 🙂

Good luck on the names! I know it’s a BIG decision but you and Matt will pick the perfect name for your little one.

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22 robin April 18, 2012 at 6:47 am

Thats nice to name her after the person who raised you.

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23 LizP April 18, 2012 at 2:00 pm

I like Michael Joseph a lot, but it is also super popular. I have two in my family (cousin and his dad), and have two friends who both named their child Michael Joseph.

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24 Lindsay April 17, 2012 at 8:24 am

I actually found boys names to be so much easier to decide on! We had a big list and quickly narrowed it down. As for girls names that list was much harder to make and I think we have finally made a decision or at least 98% sure we have. I had Basil and Dax on our list of boys names but my husband vetoed both. Also love Asher but we have a friend who has a little boy named Asher so that one got taken off the list too. We are also hyphenating our babies last name even if that means it will be a million letters (Ingalls-Fairweather) since my husband and I decided to keep our own last names when we got married.

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25 Heather April 18, 2012 at 10:49 am

I’ve found girls names so difficult to decide on too. My husband and I were actually recently discussing that and we think it has to do with wanting the “perfect” name for the world to take your girl seriously. Someday she’ll [hopefully] be a successful woman, and so the name has to fit both being a cute little girl and womanhood. For some reason it seems like men have an easier pass on this. Or maybe it’s just us being overly paranoid.

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26 Cate April 17, 2012 at 8:27 am

A big kudos to you for sticking with hyphenation if that’s what you want! When my husband and I got married, neither of us were very attached to our last names, but neither of us wanted to take the other’s name, for various reasons. We ended up creating an entirely new name, and we love it. Works for us!

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27 Heather @ Get Healthy with Heather April 17, 2012 at 8:29 am

So many names! Jacob and I were lucky we both loved hunter, made it easy to pick! A girl name was mug trickier to come up with effort we knew we were having a boy.

I’m excited to find out what name you picked, cave believe you’re making us wait 20 more weeks to find out Kath!!

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28 Casi Ortiz (mamacravings) April 17, 2012 at 8:30 am

My favorite on the girls lists: Ella and Ruth(ie)

the boys: Asher and Max

But I really like all of them! You have a great list.

My son’s name is Elijah Myles. It was my husband’s pick, but I like it.
If we stuck with E’s we would go with Evan Charles (Charles is my grandfather’s name) and Elliott Ryan (my brother’s name).

For girls we like:
Elaina Grace (Elaine is my mother’s middle name)
Emelia Claire (Emma and Claire are both family names)
Elisabeth Adrianna (Elizabeth is my grandmother’s middle name).

…I think a lot about names too. 🙂

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29 Kim April 17, 2012 at 8:35 am

I love all the names on your lists! I especially love Baker, because that is my maiden name. I had never thought to use it as a boy’s name. My father passed away recently, and I can’t think of a better tribute. So, if we have a boy next time that will definitely be on my list.
My daughter’s name is Raina Catherine. My husband actually picked out Raina and it just stuck. She is definitely a Raina! The name Catherine is after my grandmother, who was a very special person to me.
I agree totally with keeping the name a secret. We didn’t, and we got some comments that made us feel less than excited about our name choice. When we go down that road again we will be more hush hush. 🙂

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30 LizP April 18, 2012 at 2:02 pm

I love Raina!

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31 Jennifer April 17, 2012 at 8:38 am

Some really great names! Some are totally unique without being too weird, KWIM. My favs are Asher, Max and Davidson (or Davis would be cute).
I am a true believer in using family names or something that “means” something to you both, not just picked randomly from a baby book. Our son is Owen Walter – Owen is a Welsh version of John (my Dad’s name) and Walter was my husband’s grandfather. Our daughter is RIley Cathryn – Riley is my maiden name and Cathryn is by MIL’s first name (she goes by her middle).

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32 Hattie April 17, 2012 at 8:40 am

Have you come across the Swistle: Baby Names blog yet? I’ve always loved looking at names and the combinations of first, middle, last that people come up with so this blog is purely read for entertainment. I’m no where near ready to have kids but I love to look at the possibilities!

The link: http://swistlebabynames.blogspot.com/

🙂

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33 Jennifer April 17, 2012 at 2:53 pm

I second Swistle! Awesome blog to read for ideas even if you don’t submit. I also highly recommend http://www.amazon.com/The-Baby-Name-Wizard-Magical/dp/0767917529 – super fun book!

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34 Laura April 17, 2012 at 8:40 am

My husband and I just found out we’re having a little boy and our top three names are Max, Jack, and Henry. Our last name is pretty feminine and can also be considered a first name (it’s on your girl name list, actually!), so we wanted to go with something that is clearly a first name (versus something like Thomas which could be mistaken for a last name) and something that sounds masculine. Right now we’re “practicing” calling the baby by a name to see what feels most natural. 🙂

By the way, we’re due just days apart (I’m 21 weeks today!) so it’s been extra fun to follow your journey!

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35 KERF April 17, 2012 at 8:43 am

🙂

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36 Ann April 17, 2012 at 8:41 am

Our dog’s name is Asher 🙂 and I think it would make a great human name! And our son’s name is Roan Anderson. We just liked Roan and my dad’s name is Anderson. For our hopefully second child I like Lena and Liam. Enjoy the process!

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37 Emily @ the doodlebug April 17, 2012 at 9:35 am

Lena is my FAVORITE girls name, again – husband said no 😉

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38 haily April 17, 2012 at 12:05 pm

Lol, Ann…. my dog’s name is Lucy, and now that I am expecting I am sad I used that name on a dog 🙁

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39 KERF April 17, 2012 at 12:30 pm

Use it anyway!

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40 Faith April 17, 2012 at 3:29 pm

This made me think of Indiana Jones! (You are named after the DOG?) Haha.

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41 Stephanie C April 17, 2012 at 6:57 pm

I have the same problem! We named our dog something and love the name so much we wish we could use it again 😉

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42 LizP April 18, 2012 at 2:23 pm

My mentality is don’t name your kid anything that is a popular dog’s name- Max, Rex, Maggie, etc. Check the most popular dog name list and I definitely avoid those names for humans!

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43 KERF April 18, 2012 at 2:27 pm

But there are tons of humans with those names that prosper!

Now Rover, Tiger, Buddy, Bear…I can understand 🙂

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44 LizP April 18, 2012 at 6:26 pm

I agree that you can prosper with a name that is a popular dog name. I personally just would prefer not to hear when I tell someone (stranger, friend, doctor, etc) my child’s name, “Oh that’s my dog’s name!” And this is from someone who loves dogs.

But, to each his own. I personally have loved spending over an hour reading everyone’s opinions and name suggestions! Such great ideas out there!

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45 Jeanette April 19, 2012 at 10:03 am

I keep reading through the comments and can’t believe how many people like the name Max! Every time I see it I think “That’s my dog’s name!”.

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46 Amelia April 19, 2012 at 12:33 pm

My daughter’s name is Lucy, but we meet tons of dogs named Lucy and it doesn’t bother me a bit. Furry or not it’s a great name 🙂

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47 Jessica April 17, 2012 at 8:42 am

I am more for slightly traditional names, my daughters are Rebecca Dee, Katelyn Diane, and Natalie Grace. So I am not a fan of most of your names, I cringe at Willow, Pepper, Frazier, Potter, Basil, Baker and Churton. Ultimately once I meet someone and get to know them, their name usually fits their personality and their non-traditional name grows on me. I am sure it will be the same with your baby boy!
Mharche? Nontraditional spellings make me cringe too. I have an unusual last name and it is no fun spelling it constantly, I can’t