20 Weeks: Baby Bucket List

One of the questions many couples ask themselves before having a baby is if they have had enough time to build and share their marriage before two becomes three. Sometimes this list, whether mental or written down, helps couples figure out if they are ready to start a family [yet sometimes you don’t have a choice – baby is already on the way!] I’ve heard it called the Baby Bucket List.

For Matt and me, getting settled into our careers was the most important factor in our timing. We never had a baby bucket list, per se, but our first 5 years of marriage were packed with fun. Rather than focus on things we never got to do before baby [ahem, travel to Europe], here are some of the things we DID do to enjoy our time together to the max. Of course every day at home is a joy, but many of our most exciting moments occurred while traveling near and far over the past 5 years.

Starting with “I Do”

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Newlywed trips to Asheville, the beach, and Savannah

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College reunions

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Wine festivals

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Ski trip


Beachy times


Visits to Boston, Charleston + Jacksonville

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And to New Orleans + Bermuda + Charleston again!

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A visit to Yellowstone

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Drinking 1,000 beers

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Lots of crazy fun family times

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A 5-year anniversary trip to Sonona


Opening a business (!!!! big one !!!!)


Buying a house


Babymoon to Jamaica


And the fun doesn’t end when the baby arrives…

…we just have a new little person with whom to share our lives!


37 thoughts on “20 Weeks: Baby Bucket List”

  1. The fun definitely won’t end, I love that attitude! So many women say “do (whatever) now because once the baby gets here…” but I think it’s all about your attitude. If you think things aren’t going to be “fun” anymore, they won’t be, but if you do, they will be 🙂

  2. You are so cute together! You’ve already been so many places and done so many things 🙂
    I think having a baby adds to the fun as well because now you can do fun kid stuff too like the zoo, amusement parks etc and see the excitement of your child!! 🙂 I already told my husband I want to take our son to Disney World when he’s old enough but I’m really excited to go too! haha

  3. You couldn’t have said it better when you said the fun doesn’t end when the baby arrives!! we have done so many things with our 4 year old, and life has barely slowed down at all – multiple plane rides to visit family, road trips, TONS of beach weekends with friends, vacation in Miami, happy hours, dinners out, etc. The other day we started naming all of the restaurants he has already eaten at and it’s probably more than I had by the time I was 18! Life with a kid is just as fun 🙂

  4. I’ve never felt like having kids has changed our lives. If anything, it’s made it even better. 🙂

    What a great blog post today. It was fun looking back over the years. You have so many more memories to make together. 🙂

  5. This is so sweet. I’m not in the position at all to start planning a family, but the baby bucket list is an interesting concept to think about. I think a lot of people rush into starting a family after getting married because they feel like that’s what they “have” to do. Looks like you and Matt made some great memories and will make many more once little baby KERF comes!

  6. I think people say “oh just wait until the baby gets here, so do what you can now…” because right after the baby is born, you’re life does stop for a few weeks and maybe months. 🙂 A baby will need you more than anything has probably ever needed you in your life and that can be tiresome. But, beyond that, it’s what you make of it. Your life and your priorities will change. But, it’s a change that you won’t mind or may not even notice. And, you’ll still have fun going out to dinner and going on trips. But, you’ll also have the fun of watching your son take his first step, say his first word, and grow up before your eyes (not saying that there won’t be hard times in there, too) But, it’s a different kind of enjoyment than you’ll ever experience.

  7. You can still have fun with babies but it’s a huge adjustment to your normal life. All of a sudden, you have to put someone else needs before your own. You’re lucky though because you have parents who can take your baby for the day or night.

  8. You’re right, life doesn’t stop once you have a baby. It changes, big time, but it doesn’t stop! My husband and I love to travel, so now we just cart baby around with us! She’s 8 months old and has been on over ten flights already. We took her to New Zealand when she was 3 months old and it was fantastic! Very different from previous trips where it was just my husband and I, but we made it fun. Life is different now and better in many ways 🙂

  9. So much fun! My husband (a Matt too!) and I were married three years before we had our little girl. He was deployed to Iraq for a year when she was 5 weeks old plus she had colic so we didn’t do a lot in the beginning but now that she’s older (3 next week!) I love being able to take her places and share things with her.

  10. Hmmmm . . . I think you two may be hogging all the fun! You guys are going to do such a wonderful job of incorporating your little one into your lives. My husband used to say he didn’t want to take a child on vacation till he was a few years old and now that he is born he wants to take him everywhere! The first few months were hard, but after sleeping and eating patterns settled into a routine the little guy does everything we do. They are learning every day. The funny thing is, one of my six month old’s favorite places to go is the grocery store!

  11. As a mother of 3 in the last 5 years, I can say your attitude is a great one! Hubby and I had nearly 5 years together “just us” before our first daughter was born and, like you, we lived life to the fullest! Maybe not doing everything we want to do in our whole lives (fo sho!) but starting a business (or 3), doing a litte traveling, etc. And we are still able to go do things….one awesome thing about kids is that they are pretty adaptable 🙂

    Kids enhance your life in a way that can’t be explained…they also change it and challenge you in ways you didn’t know were possible! So glad you guys feel “ready” in your relationship for a baby! Babies are blessings always, but they are especially awesome when you and your marriage are ready to take on the special challenges parenting presents.

    Oh, and don’t worry about natural child birth. It’s hard, no doubt. All 3 of mine were birthed without drugs. Just keep feeding your mind with good information…books, articles, etc. I’m sure your doula has book suggestions if you are interested. My favorite natural childbirth book is “Immaculate Deception; The Myth and Magic of Birth” The biggest piece of advice my friends who birth in the hospital give is to labor at home as long as possible. You’ll be more comfortable and there is less chance of unnecessary intervention 😉 Self education (like you’ve been doing!) is a great start.

    Love reading both your blogs!


  12. I definitely second and third what everyone says. You can do pretty much everything you could do before the baby, it just takes a few adjustments, the right mindset and a strategically-packed diaper bag. My husband and I have a simple saying that we invoke whenever we are boarding a 13 hour plane ride or going through customs again or going out to dinner with the wee one in tow: “nothing is too hard.” If its worth doing, we’ll make it work and if we can’t do it with Will, we probably don’t really want to be doing it right now anyways. The fun thing is that, the older our son gets, the more fun we sharing new experiences with him. He’s 9 months old and already lived in/traveled to 4 countries (helps that we were living in Asia) and I think the more we travel with him, the more comfortable he gets with the process.

  13. We had our babymoon in New Zealand 14 years ago this month. I was 17 weeks along with our first. So. Much. Fun.

    The great thing about children is that they can travel well, with just a little advance planning. Our girls are in middle school now and have been around the U.S. and have well-stamped passports already. We’re taking them to Australia and New Zealand for three weeks this summer.

    We’re now working on a different sort of bucket list: Family adventures to go on in the next five years before our oldest heads off to college. *sniff*

  14. My daughter’s first trip to Europe was when she was 10 months old and my son was born in Germany and at 7 weeks took his first international trip to Morocco. By the time he was 4 months old he’d been to the US, Sweden, Morocco and Germany. He’s now 2.5 and she’s 11. We still go to Europe for several months every year and both kids just kind of go with it. We’ve added a couple of more countries to his list – Italy, Austria, Belgium and Panama plus return visits to Sweden and Germany (not to mention domestic trips all over the US). It’s our lifestyle and our love to travel and taking kids is definitely harder, especially having more than 1 kid and dealing with time changes, etc. but for us it’s worth it. I also think going for longer periods of time and enjoying things like playgrounds really gives you a deeper insight into the country or culture you are visiting. That said, I still dread the 18 hour trips with my very noisy, very active 2.5 year old boy.

  15. The funny thing is that all these events will seem like a different lifetime ago after the baby arrives…it will all feel like, gosh, did we really do that or go here or there? Yes we have the pictures to prove it but it will feel far off and like a lifetime ago. At least certain things have been like that for my hubs and me. We can’t even remember pre-kiddo life 🙂 And love building new memories, new trips, new stuff as a family now.

  16. Aww, what an awesome five years! My hubs and I were only married two and a half years so we definitely didn’t have as much time to do a lot but we enjoyed those years SO much. Now we’re enjoying this stage of having a baby, and now another on the way. I’m really excited this stage is turning out so well and know that each stage after will be awesome too.

  17. We are so glad we waited to start a family too. We have been together 10.5 years now and we have no regrets! We traveled, bought a house, settled our careers and developed our relationship and now we’re in such a great place to raise our baby. You guys have done so much already, that will be one lucky kid! (That sonogram picture is SO cute!)

  18. A baby makes every day more fun ! They literally light up your life. After mine goes to sleep for the night I start to miss him. I can’t wait to meet baker wheats worth 🙂

  19. You two are so freakin’ adorable! I’m very excited for you and Matt to embark on this new exciting journey! You’ve shared, I’m sure, so many great exciting things together. Yet, there is so much more to come!

    1. PS – I was just thinking about the times my hubby and I have had today too. Today marks 12 years of hubby and I ‘being together.’ Though we didn’t buy eachother anytype of anniversary gift (our wedding anniversary is next month – gifts will be exchanged then), he did leave me a tear-jerking note on my facebook this morning. I was thinking, “oh the Notebook has nothing on him!” He is such a fantastic writer and definitely says things in a way that just tugs your heart strings. What a fabulous husband I have. I can’t wait to spend the rest of OUR lives together, raise this little baby (going on 20 weeks preggo!) and watch it grow into an amazing, well-rounded person.

  20. Well…even though Matt didn’t go with you, you did go to Africa! Lots of people will never get to say that. My husband and I also hoped for a europe trip before baby, but no dice. If we can afford it, it would be great to go wih the baby when the time is right.

    1. I was going to include that (and the other 10 or so trips I did solo) but I felt the focus should be about us as a couple 🙂

  21. Maybe it’s because I had to try so hard for so many years with so much medical intervention to finally have my miracle son, but I never felt I should do “whatever” before the baby gets here, because I never felt like the fun would stop when he arrived. I was right too. There have been sleepless nights (lots of them). There have been nursing strikes and colds and ear infections. There has been the hell that is cutting molars. But I’ve had more fun in the 13 months since my baby has arrived than I had the entire 40 years of my life before it happened. Attitude is everything, and you’ve got SO much more fun to come.

  22. So I just have to comment that I love the fact that Matt whipped out a flask on the ski lift. Priceless 🙂

  23. aww I love this post! good for you guys! it must be cool to look back at all the fun times you guys had pre-baby all in one place: your KERF blog! 🙂

  24. I late on responding, but this was a BEAUTIFUL post. Loved it! Also, those lines….totally normal. I had them and they went away. Thinking of you!

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