21 Weeks: To Do List Updated

We have made tons of progress on the nursery and my to-do list seems to be shrinking! I am very lucky to have a friend throwing me a shower in Hillsborough at the end of July, so some of my prep will have to wait until after that is over, but until then…only a few more things I can do now (like READ!)

Complete a baby registry and figure out what I am going to buy sooner rather than later (Done, I chose Babies R Us and MyRegistry.com)

Purchase and assemble crib and mattress [gah organic mattresses are expensive!!!] (I decided to just buy these myself rather than wait – big items checked off)

Finish making nursery décor decisions

Buy dresser, side table and some kind of rocker/chair/glider and assemble (IKEA done and done! Decided not to get a glider and will utilize the arm chair in the living room 10 feet away and the 3 rockers we have on the porch if necessary)

Paint closet and figure out closet system of organization

Re-do ceiling fan (Guf this is turning out to be a pain. No one makes cloth bulb covers!)

Hang curtains

Attend childbirth class, breastfeeding class, and baby care basics class (all scheduled for May!)

READ LOTS OF BOOKS!! I have about 5 I need to read, including Ina May Gaskin and Bradley Method (Now that LOST is over, this can begin!)

Baby proof the house (you guys said to nix this for now)

Buy a baby gate (nix this for now)

Hire doula (Woo hoo hard one crossed off!)

Write a birth plan (I’m not doing a reallllly detailed one, so this shouldn’t be too hard)

Research baby health insurance (Can’t do a thing about it till the baby is born, so on hold)

Research cord banking (Procrastinating..)

Research vaccinations (Have a book in possession)

Research local placenta encapsulation guru (Have one recommended – just need to touch base)

Choose pediatrician (Have one recommended)

Buy things for postpartum – like nursing bras or nursing pads (pads on registry, bras waiting till 30+ weeks)

Install car seat (once purchased!) and have it inspected

Wash all new things (trickle effect!)

Prepare cloth diaper system (and cloth wipes and get some disposables for newborn)

Take a nap (Nap tally: I)

Pack hospital bag (I know this is waaay too early, but it needs to be on the list!)

 

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On Eating Real Food

Normalcy

Where It’s App

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61 thoughts on “21 Weeks: To Do List Updated”

  1. Dont worry…that nap tally will increase in your third tri! I felt like I needed a weekly nap on weeks 34 to 38. Now…not as much. End of pregnancy energy maybe?

  2. About cord blood banking–I’m not sure if they will do this at your hospital, but when we were in triage a lady came by from some public cord blood banking organization. It’s free, but the cord blood can be used not only by your child, but by anyone who needs it. We felt good about donating our cord blood–but to each his own! I seriously have no clue what the organization’s name is…I was about to have a baby so I was a tad distracted!

  3. Make sure you read about the Hep B vaccine before you deliver, as most hospitals want that given to the baby before discharge. For the others, they are usually recommended starting at 2 months, so you would have a little more time to research.
    Two words. Blackout curtains. Seriously 🙂

  4. Way to go!

    Yeah, baby proofing isn’t a big deal. I am more of the mind to train rather than block anyway since most people’s houses aren’t baby proofed and your kid will need to know how to act there too.

  5. You have SO much crossed off! Way to go! ….. I love seeing your ‘to-do’ list. It helps me make mine out too- even though there is nothing crossed off, other than growing a little bundle of love in my tummy. I guess that is an important one though 🙂

  6. Add researching what to wash your cloth diapers with. Not all “baby” or natural detergents work to make the diapers fluff and retain absorbing qualities as needed. I used one a few years ago when I was babysitting for our grandbaby and do not remember which one now. Dreft and Ivory Snow were not recommended for diapers. And no fabric softeners. Sorry, just another thing to worry about.

    1. Paula and Kath, have either of you looked into making your own natural detergents like with Borax and washing soda and also using other products like vinegar, baking soda, etc for general cleaning? I just watched Chemerical on Netflix and it made me want to consider making my own detergent but now that you mentioned “not recommended for diapers,” I was hoping to get some real life baby perspective on the matter!

      Also Kath, I have a friend who does sewing on the side who made me new cushion covers for our glider I bought off of Craigslist. Maybe you know someone to custom make cloth covers for your fan bulbs? Good luck!

      1. I make homemade laundry detergent now, the washing soda, borax and Fels Naptha soap recipe and am very pleased with it, certainly the price is great. Also homemade fabric softener using vinegar and baking soda. And I make our bar soap too. I’m the old pioneer with her lye soap brewing. We’ve been using it for years and love it. My husband won’t buy soap anymore, he watchs our supply and lets me know when it’s time to cook some.

  7. Great list! One recommendation I have on the classes, if at all possible to switch, would be to take the breastfeeding class closer to your due date that way it’s all fresh in your mind. Make sure Matt goes with you too, you’d be amazed at how helpful it is having your husband know everything you know about breastfeeding. I’m convinced that my daughter and I would not have had the success that we did if my husband hadn’t been helping us in the beginning. Now it’s 8 months later, I’m back at work and still breastfeeding (and she’s eating solid food).

  8. I would also recommend not worrying about nursing bras until you have the baby. I wear sports bras all day and rarely nursing bras. You just have no idea how big they’ll get and your width will decrease. also, we did not do cord blood banking, although I talked to many pediatrician and obgyn doctor friends with their own children on the pros and cons. I can tell you why if you are taking opinions.

      1. I was surprised that a pediatrician friend with twins and a obgyn friend with a baby both did not do cord blood banking. They said cord blood you take from this baby is actually for future babies and not this one. I’m actually going to forward you the email with details. Of all our doctor friends we asked, no one said it’s a sure thing you MUST do, so we decided against it.

        1. I’m a cord blood stem cell scientist. Cord blood cells that are privately banked can be used for the treatment of hematologic diseases in either the child from which the cord was taken or siblings who are often good matches. There are some diseases for which it would not be appropriate to use the cells from child A to treat child A because the cells in the cord may harbour the mutations that led to the disease in the first place. There are other diseases where cells from child A are the best source of cells to treat child A, so both scenarios are possible.

          In addition to deciding whether or not private cord blood banking is a good choice for your family, I would recommend you also research whether public cord blood banking is available in your region, as this provides an alternative option to consider.

  9. I wouldn’t go crazy with the nursing bras and pads. Just get a few bras to get you through the first week or two, but you never know which ones you will like/not like or if your chest will change size a bit. 🙂 You can always take the babe to a store to get some more in a few weeks.

    1. I’m 28 weeks now and I just bought about 3 nursing bras from motherhood maternity. Not only are they AMAZINGLY comfortable, but they will also work after the baby is here. I also had to buy pads now as I started to leak around 25 weeks. I got some Bamboobies—made out of bamboo and cotton. So comfortable and can reuse.

  10. I keep meaning to comment about cloth diapers! You should check out the information here http://www.greenmountaindiapers.com/ We have been using their prefolds and covers since the day we brought our daughter home from the hospital- they are awesome because you don’t have to wait until the baby is big enough to fit into the one size/all in one diapers. Plus, I totally agree with Karen (one of the owners of that store/site) in that 100% cotton is easier to care for (and better for baby?) than some of the other cloth diapering systems which have synthetic fibers. Our baby is almost 7 months old, and our stash consists mainly of prefolds and covers, with 4 all in one’s (100% cotton interior) for nighttime. Just wanted to give you a new perspective since it seems like most of your cloth stash is pockets/all in ones which usually/sometimes have other synthetic fibers in them!! (PS. We use cloth wipes and wipe spray from green mountain, and they are awesome!!) As far as detergent, we use Ecos free and clear: cold wash with 1/2cup baking soda and 1/2 cup vinegar, followed by hot wash with 1 cup baking soda and 1/2 cup vinegar and 1/2 of recommended detergent, followed by another rinse. Works awesome and I have never had to “strip” my diapers!!! (We also dry them on our clothesline which works awesome if you have any leftover poop stains!)

    1. Agreed! Prefolds are better for the newborn stage than disposable diapers IMO and it makes the switch to the AIO and pockets easier than if you start with disposable diapers. And you can use prefolds for so many things! Burp cloths, mini changing pads, etc.

    2. Another shout out for prefolds. We have used them all the way from newborn to potty training, we have three different sizes. Most of the people I know who didn’t start cloth diapering from day one and complain about them not fitting, are using all-in-ones. I feel with prefolds and a snappy, you can get a really snug fit. Let me know if you want more info on prefolds and covers.

  11. Research local placenta encapsulation guru (Have one recommended – just need to touch base)

    i can’t wait to hear about how this turns out!!

  12. Why wouldn’t you research baby insurance right now? Guessing it is just different because you don’t have insurance through an employer? Or does GH have an insurance program? Just curious – I know with an employer-sponsored plan you have about 30 days after an event (marriage, divorce, birth, adoption) to add someone to your plan. Don’t want you to miss anything.

  13. I’m small framed but with a sizey chest (I’m a 34E) and for me nursing bras were impossible to find that didn’t produce weirdly shaped boobs. Ultimately it was easiest for me to wear a regular bra and just pop my boob out over the top when I needed to nurse. I nursed #1 for 18 months and #2 for 2.5 years and I think I wore a nursing bra for about 5 minutes when I started with #1. So even if you do go the nursing bra route you can still wear regular bras in a pinch. I’ll just let you know that the life of a large chested nursing mama is not easy! Nursing bras and attractive shirts are tough to find! You are not alone though – there are many of us who have navigated big chested nursing! 🙂

  14. I don’t have a strong opinion about vaccination either way because I’ve never had children, but I did read something really interesting from a new mom the other day, which basically said, “How can I expect to do more or better research on vaccines than the WHO or the CDC?” I thought that was brilliant and right on. Certainly, we all have to have as much knowledge as possible for our kids and future kids, but your “book in hand” comment seems to minimize the seriousness of this issue a little bit.

    1. As someone who works in newborn & child health (in academia, not WHO or CDC), I like this 😉 But I also understand the desire to educate yourself as much as possible – I know I do this whenever I or a loved one gets sick. One book that is on my list that I think may be helpful for parents is the Panic Virus by Seth Mnookin. I haven’t read it yet, but he came to speak to us and I was very impressed. He’s a journalist and dad, not a scientist,so I think he probably communicates more clearly than we do 🙂 and he has clearly done his research. What I thought was particularly interesting was that he said when he started his research he was neither pro nor con on vaccines

  15. Brush up on the nap-taking part of the list 🙂 You’ll thank yourself later!

    And car seat installation…like putting together furniture, this is not a fun task for the non-mechanically inclined. Matt will be able to bang it out in short order (or you) but it’s always a struggle for us!

  16. Please, please vaccinate your children. Our kids and their kids are going to have a horrible health crisis on their hands if people keep believing shoddy and incomplete research studies. 🙁

  17. I wouldn’t bother purchasing the newborn disposables. The hospital gave us enough to last until my son was in a size 1. Just ask for extras before you leave. And wipes and a pacifier and really anything they have. 🙂

    1. In pill form, yes I hope to. Read up on it… It’s not that unheard of and there are several benefits. My good friend encapsulated and swears by it

  18. i had intentions of making my own cloth wipes but I ended up buying those really thin baby washclothes (sold at walmart, babies r us, target, etc). They were cheaper than making my own and obviously way easier! I also use my peri bottle from the hospital to store the wipes solution (although i usually just use plain water) and spray wipe when needed to prevent the wipes from molding and getting slimy if left in the solution too long. May sound gross to re use the peri bottle but it was well washed!

  19. Just reading a comment regarding wipes. I’m for whatever works for you, but when the baby is a brand new newborn, the poop is VERY STICKY and hard to get off no matter what you use. My step mother advised me to use a little baby lotion on their bottom to clean up the sticky poop and it worked like a charm!!! I was so happy to learn this trick.

  20. Definitely wait til your son is here and your milk comes in before buying nursing bras. You really can’t guess what size you’ll need till your supply settles in.

    When our twins were born 5 years ago, we couldn’t find a bank who would accept twin cord blood — not sure why, but it wasn’t an option for us.

  21. O I love to hear you are researching placenta encapsulation! I just had it done for my 2nd baby and I LOVED IT! If I have any more children I won’t hesitate to hire someone to encapsulate it again for me! I had postpartum depression and milk supply issues with my first and the placenta encapsulation helped so much the 2nd time around. I had more energy, healed very fast (natural birth no medication no tearing) and I had a better milk supply (although from reading your posts I think your supply will be fantastic and abundant….lucky you!!!) So I just wanted to encourage you to keep researching this. I found it to be well worth the money. Please feel free to email me with ANY questions you may have!

    Jen

  22. What is a cloth bulb cover? Is it a cloth cover you put over a light bulb? Do you take it off every time you want to turn the light on, as it could be a potential fire hazard if left on the bulb in use?

  23. Carseat tip: its ok to check out that you can get a good install on the car seat in your vehicle, but you dont want to be driving around with it installed (or in your trunk) til you’re munchkin’s here. Esp if you invest in one of the pricier seats if you were in an accident (gd forbid!) you’d have to replace it.

  24. for postpartum bleeding, if you’re going cloth diapers for the baby, you should go cloth for yourself to, and check out the underwear LunaPads makes. the boy short and hipster pads are SO comfy, fabric cushioning is so much more pleasant than anything synthetic

  25. I bought and washed my nursing bras before baby only to find that they were way too small after delivery. My best advice is to wait or at least leave tags on. Same goes for baby clothes, I washed all of mine and wish I could have gone to exchange some for different sizes.

  26. About the cord blood banking–also do some research about why it’s important for babies to receive the blood that is in their cord at the time of birth (takes about 3-5 minutes after birth for the cord to stop pulsating and empty). As long as their cord isn’t clamped and cut, this is a physiologically normal part of the birth process that all mammals go through. The blood in the cord is full of stem cells that the baby is meant to get at the time of birth. Also, clamping and cutting too soon can lead to babies being anemic since they are meant to have that excess of blood from the cord in their bodies. Here is a FB page dedicated to leaving the cord intact- http://www.facebook.com/delayedcordclamping

  27. Make sure you have heavy duty kotex pads for when you return from the hospital. The ones the hospital gives out are bulky and uncomfortable.

    Also, think hard on the glider/rocker issue. For the middle of thenight, it is wonderful not to need to go to another room, turn on lights, and wake up yourself and baby more than necessary. Just a helpful suggestion from a mom of 2 under 3. 🙂

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