How is motherhood going?
Mazen is four weeks old today! How on earth has time flown by that fast! I feel like he is such a big boy now – and getting bigger everyday!
But maybe not quite soooo big yet : )
Typical for a baby under 6 weeks, fussiness has picked up. I would definitely not say we have an “easy baby” but I don’t think he is to the point of being colicky either. His periods of fussiness, cluster feeding and crying are right on par with what the books say they should be at this stage. I look forward to seeing what happens when he turns 6 weeks and supposedly starts sleeping longer at night and getting more efficient at feeding. I also know not to count on these things! In general though, while he is unpredictable, he is also sort of predictable in that I can count on him eating every 1-2 hours during the day, sleeping anywhere from 1-4 hours at night, fussing in the evenings, napping only in the carriers and being super cute all the time!
We are still using disposable diapers and probably will be for a while because the set of cloth diapers we were given are HUGE, even in the smallest snap setting! I can’t see him fitting into them anytime soon. We don’t have enough prefolds/covers/newborn size to switch full time, but I have put a few of those on him while we’re at home. They are so cute! And so far, so good when it comes to leaking/absorption. We are definitely still going to attempt some elimination communication, but not until he’s on the older baby poop schedule. Newborn poop is just nonstop : )
Why is it that all of the baby books are so confusing?! Breastfeeding Made Simple was anything but simple, and Healthy Sleep Habits seemed like one long run-on sentence to me. I finally found a summary page and wish that had come first instead of last! The only books I have found to be very user friendly are Harvey Karp’s Happiest Baby and the sleep version of that too. I love Harvey Karp!
I’m eating half to a whole bar every night, usually around 3am. Twelve hours is too long to go without food, but I’m usually too sleepy/drowsy to prepare a real snack. I’ve been eating Larabars, Pure bars, AnneP bars and Emily’s Coconut Energy Bites.
Breastfeeding is finally not painful. I wouldn’t say it’s comfortable, but it’s not painful after the first latch. I’ve started pumping with the Pump In Style. It’s great in its efficiency, but pumping is hard work!
I’m surprised by the fact that on the weekends when Matt is home, I can take a reallllly long shower. I thought moms weren’t supposed to ever shower again! It’s actually quite liberating that really the only thing only I can do is feed him. Matt can take care of all of his other needs too, so when he is home if I want to take a long shower, make a meal or write a blog post, I can do that right after Maze is fed. The days when Matt’s not home are a lot harder, but Maze and I are still having a blast together. We just have lower expectations on the amount of things we accomplish in our day.
GAH baby clothes are sooooo cute!! These were on sale from Baby Gap and a present from Grandma KK!
I haven’t spent one minute in Baby Central. We use the bookshelves for storage all the time, but that chair has remained empty thus far. The couch is way more comfy!
I would love to get back into exercise, but it’s proven to be a bit harder than expected. I thought babies slept and ate at more regular intervals, but I was naïve! He won’t be ready for the gym until 6+ weeks (and even then it seems rather complicated to go!) so right now we’re just walking when we can. Everyday when he’s done feeding, the choice is: walk OR nap, write, clean, watch TV, read, etc. I’m trying to make walk a priority in the late morning every day. I’ve found that he’s pretty happy in the baby carrier, but that is also so HOT right now, so I take the stroller as well and transfer him in once he has fallen asleep in the carrier. It’s a lot of gear for a simple walk, but the system has allowed us to cover 2-3 miles or close to an hour at a time. We are building up! When I’m cleared and comfortable for running, I might leave him with Matt and see how that goes. I can already see how runs as ‘me time’ are going to be awesome.
I’m pretty shocked at how good I feel during the day sleep-wise. I am one of those types who used to get less than 8 hours of sleep and be grumpy and tired all day long. I have always needed 8 hours. Now I’m getting 5-7 hours of [very] broken sleep and feeling quite awake. I have only taken maybe 2 naps in the past month? I think our 12-hour night stretches are how I’ve managed to squeeze in enough sleep to get by, and that leaves daytime naps for getting things done. I’m so surprised at how well this has gone. I thought the sleep deprivation would be the worst part of the newborn stage, but I’d say the breastfeeding and lack of schedule during the day is the most challenging part. That said, if he has a particularly bad night of not going back to sleep, I definitely do feel much worse and need a nap. Luckily those nights come only once or twice a week.
When he cries, I seem to love him even more, which is an odd reaction since I always thought that when a baby cries it raises hairs on end. Someone once told me that a baby’s cry is like an on/off switch – they could cry at the same intensity if they need to burp or if something is terribly wrong. Thus, I try to remain calm when he does cry and troubleshoot with as clear of a mind as I can. Most of the time crying just means he is ready to eat, or a light cry means he wants to be soothed into a nap. In fact, I definitely have started learning his cries, and his hunger cry is definitely “neh” like the Dunsten Baby Language predicts!
I can’t even begin to describe the intense protection and love I feel for Maze. The kissing is nonstop, and I won’t even begin to tell you all the stupid names I call him all day long!
I have so many posts I want to write and not enough time! I’m enjoying writing reflection/journaling about how things have gone over here on BERF.
Eventual upcoming posts:
- Thoughts on the different swaddle blankets/outfits we have used
- A baby bowtie giveaway!
- Things I Couldn’t Live Without (in the first weeks)
- Diaper bag thoughts
- Baby Boogers
- How I’m experiencing something I call “Phantom Baby” sometimes at night
- Am I glad I encapsulated my placenta? (YES!)