Love.

November 28, 2012

I have always heard women describe their love for their children as like no other emotion on earth.

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My reflection now that I am a mom is that love for a child is beyond emotional. It’s a primal, physical feeling that comes from deep inside. Sometimes when he cries, I can just feel the love bubbling out of me from every inch of my body. In fact, the closest comparison I can make, interestingly, is to PMS. When PMS has been its worst, I feel irrationality flowing through my veins. My love for Maze comes in a similar form. Perhaps because it’s hormone controlled as well?

There are so many romantic country songs that can be turned into songs about a new baby. When I make breakfast, I turn on the country station and sing songs to Maze.

“Just to see you smile, I’d do anything.”

While I was running recently, I listened to Tim McGraw and Faith Hill’s song, “It’s Your Love.” The lyrics about the middle of the night could so easily be applied to a mother and newborn baby. The song put into words how I feel about love being more than just an emotion:

Dancin’ in the dark
Middle of the night
Takin’ your heart
And holdin’ it tight

Better than I was
More than I am
And all of this happened
By takin’ your hand

And who I am now
Is who I wanted to be
And now that we’re together
I’m stronger than ever
I’m happy and free

It’s your love
It just does somethin’ to me
It sends a shock right through me
I can’t get enough
And if you wonder
About the spell I’m under
oh It’s your love

-Tim + Faith

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{ 21 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Krissy @ Shiawase Life November 28, 2012 at 1:03 pm

PMS is the exact opposite of LOVE for me, so I cannot understand this at all… ;)

Hehe, really though, so glad to read this, very sweet Kath :)

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2 KERF November 28, 2012 at 1:29 pm

Haha I don’t mean in terms of the actual feelings – just how they manifest!

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3 Nikki November 28, 2012 at 1:44 pm

1. I’m glad to hear that someone else feels uncontrollably irrational at “that time.”
2. Your love for Maze must be out of control, lady!!! :-) (At least, based on my experiences with PMS and your analogy!)

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4 KatyBug November 28, 2012 at 1:56 pm

YES. THIS. It’s as if in a single instant, I GOT IT. The “it” that all moms talk about but I never really understood.

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5 Michelle@Peachy Palate November 28, 2012 at 2:46 pm

Loving your baby posts even though I’m not yet a mother, yourself and Emily (over at Daily Garnish) have an amazing ability to openly and eloquently express the joys and the little less joyous aspects of becoming and being a mum. Inspiring and enlightening! :)

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6 Bethany November 28, 2012 at 4:56 pm

Love everything about this. Country music tells stories, and i can totally see how it displays the love between a parent and child. You are such a good mama <3

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7 Kristen@Change of Pace November 28, 2012 at 5:35 pm

I love how you described a mother’s love as a deep down primal feeling. That feeling is so hard to describe. When my kids are hurt I have such an ache to fix whatever is hurting them. When they are happy my love for them just overwhelms me. Those are feelings only a mother could have. Great post Kath!

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8 Jessica S November 28, 2012 at 6:08 pm

What a sweet post! I don’t have any kids yet so your connection to the feelings of PMS is a great way to understand how strong the love is.

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9 Angelica November 28, 2012 at 9:05 pm

Tall, Tall Trees

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10 vegtastic November 28, 2012 at 9:56 pm

Did you know that petting your dog, or even looking into your pet’s eyes, causes the human body to produce similar amounts of oxytocin as it does to stimulate maternal bonding? Thinking about how you feel when you cuddle your pet might be a better analogy to maternal love than PMS!

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11 KERF November 29, 2012 at 12:41 am

Well considering we don’t have a pet…

Again, I’m talking about the rush of emotions I feel and nothing negative associated with pms. Have you ever heard the quote “love is the closest thing to hate?” They are the most similar because they are the strongest emotions. I’m simply trying to explain a new emotion i feel to those who might be curious.

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12 Jennifer November 28, 2012 at 11:09 pm

I never really learned “baby” songs to sing when I was rocking my babies so I always just sang songs I knew the words to. Every night I sing either “God Blessed the Broken Road” and “It’s Your Love”. Such sweet songs that have new meanings once you have kids. ;)

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13 Ella November 29, 2012 at 12:52 am

So sweet, Kath! Their utter helplessness and dependence brings out a ferocity of feeling… it’s crazy.

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14 Ida November 29, 2012 at 8:09 am

BEAUTIFULLY SAID

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15 Katie D. November 29, 2012 at 10:06 am

I don’t have a baby (yet), but I get what you are saying about PMS (I think). My PMS is almost outside of myself. Like I have no control over my irritability and I do feel it coursing through me!

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16 Fancy November 29, 2012 at 10:18 am

This post was just beautiful, those song lyrics are amazing! Made me cry reading them :)

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17 Melissa November 29, 2012 at 5:44 pm

First of all, I am a country girl at heart and love that song. I know it’s about love between a husband/wife, but Tim and Faith have three girls – I wonder if when they sing this, if they ever think about their girls? I have never quite looked at the song like that!

Motherhood has unleashed a whole new realm of feelings and emotions for me. I have always been an emotional person. But motherhood? Yeah, those feelings intensify by the millions! Protectiveness, love, frustration (just wait for the terrible twos, threes and fours LOL), tenderness, wistfulness, so many more and so many more that I just can’t put a name to. She’s four now, and sometimes my heart hurts because I love her so much. Like, literally physically hurts lol.

And not to mention the new light that I saw my husband in too! I’ve blubbered many a times over that too, don’t get me started! haha.

I love this post – probably my favorite of all that I’ve read from you so far!

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18 jen November 30, 2012 at 9:02 am

Can’t agree more, motherlove is like nothing else. And fatherlove too, according to my husband. We both describe it as feeling like our hearts were blown wide open the day our girl arrived. We suddenly felt that overwhelming primal love for her, but also stronger love for eachother and what I guess I’d describe as stronger emotions in general… it’s like now everything hits us so much harder… news stories about children suffering and child abuse and such just tear us up in a completely different and much more powerful way. And my husband cries now… it’s wild. He cries over the sappiest commercials with old couples dancing or country songs about daddy’s little girl growing up. We already joke about how we’re both going to be teary-eyed fools on all those BIG days, but particularly the going off to college one. (sigh) Heart blown wide open.

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19 Angela November 30, 2012 at 7:13 pm

this is so sweet jen!!

I understand exactly what you mean about the PMS comparison. Sometimes it feels very “outside yourself” and impossible to control, all-consuming. Love is the same.

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20 lauri November 30, 2012 at 3:54 pm

the Steven Curtis Chapman song ‘dance with cinderella’ makes me cry everytime just thinking about Miss B and her daddy! Honestly, sometimes I look at her sweet face and tear up just because I am so overwhelmed with emotion. Just love that little bit to pieces!!!!!!

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21 Amelia January 13, 2013 at 6:17 pm

This is such a great way to describe how you feel about your own child. It really is a physical feeling as much as an emotional one. When your baby cries or gets hurt, it’s as if part of your body is in pain. It is so unique!

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