Mazen Moments

June 18, 2014

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Yesterday you reached up to me and said “Hand.” You wanted to hold hands while we walked, and I hope you want to for a long time.

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We went to the park this week, and I followed you up the big play set to the really steep slide. I know you are brave enough to go down it because I have seen the video your dad made of you going “wheee!” but when you got to the top you hesitated, asked me to sit with you, and we went down together again and again and again.

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You have learned the word “MINE!” and use it appropriately. You also like to point out what is “Mazen’s” and “Mommy’s.” I was drinking a glass of wine and you looked up and said “Mommy’s juice!” Yes my sweet boy, Mommy likes her juice!

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You love to play with my hair. If I wear it in a bun you tug at it until a strand comes loose that you can twirl.

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I was going through my repertoire of songs I sing at bedtime and started on “Happy Birthday.” You sang “Happy” with me each time I did. At the end of the song, I paused before I got to “You” and you finished the line for me with a laugh. Your first song!

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You were sick with a fever and woke up at 5:30 in the morning crying for me. I went in to pick you up and after telling me that you were NOT going back in your crib, I took you to my bed to see if you would sleep there. You have never wanted to co-sleep…there is too much fun to be had in a big bed! But this morning you snuggled into my arms and then rolled off of me and scooted your body into mine like a spoon. We slept like this for an hour. You don’t remember but you were flapping your hand in my face while you slept. You must have been dreaming about something funny.

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This afternoon while we were reading stories before nap we both laid down together cheek to cheek and you turned your head toward me and said “Kiss!” A moment to remember!

{ 49 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Caitlin Restivo June 18, 2014 at 7:59 am

What a sweet little guy you have, so cute!

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2 Lindsey June 18, 2014 at 8:01 am

I love this! Such sweet moments to remember!

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3 Laura@SneakersandSpatulas June 18, 2014 at 9:49 am

I don’t have kids yet and I know people give annoying unsolicited advice so please take this with a grain of salt. Did you know you aren’t supposed to ride down slides with children? There are tons of cases of parents riding down slides with their children and the kids getting a broken foot/leg from it getting stuck by the side of the slide with the parents body. This just happened to my co-workers nephew. They were co-riding down a slide and the boy got a fracture and had to wear a boot for 3-4 weeks. I would hate for that to happen to Mazen!

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4 Kath June 18, 2014 at 10:25 am

Actually I didn’t know this!

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5 Kiersten June 18, 2014 at 12:05 pm

This happened to a friend of mine too! If their foot gets stuck on the slide our body weight keeps going but if they go down on their own and it gets stuck their body compensates and turns. I still go down with my lil guy but make sure to keep his feet tucked in on my lap.

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6 Carolyn June 18, 2014 at 12:19 pm

Oh, for goodness sake. It’s a good note to make sure their legs are free, but to say you shouldn’t ride with them is silly.

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7 Laura@SneakersandSpatulas June 18, 2014 at 1:21 pm

Really? How is it silly to easily avoid breaking a child’s leg by not doing something? A quick Google search will lead you to stats like this: “A study at Winthrop University Hospital in Mineola, N.Y., found that nearly 14 percent of pediatric leg fractures over an 11-month period involved toddlers riding down the slide with a parent.” or this story: “Last spring, Katie Dickman of Dunkirk, Md., was at the playground with her 18-month-old toddler, Hannah, when the little girl asked to ride down a twisting slide. Ms. Dickman accompanied her daughter, carefully keeping the child on her lap as they coasted to the bottom. But without warning, Hannah’s sneaker caught on the side of the slide. Although Ms. Dickman grabbed the leg and unstuck her daughter’s foot, by the time they reached the ground, the girl was whimpering and could not walk. A doctor’s visit later revealed a fractured tibia.”

You are welcome to your own opinion and raising your own child as you see fit but you can’t avoid the facts.

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8 Renee June 18, 2014 at 1:32 pm

Actually, it’s not silly at all. Here is a reputable source on the subject in case anyone wants to review the statistics and make their own decision:

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/04/23/a-surprising-risk-for-toddlers-at-playground-slides/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=0

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9 Annika June 18, 2014 at 3:38 pm

Hmm, I’m a “safety nut” who worries about all kinds of things. Now I will worry about the dangers of going down slides with my kid. But I do wonder what the other 86% of pediatric leg fractures were related to – maybe such reckless everyday activities as climbing stairs, riding a bike etc. ;-)

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10 K June 18, 2014 at 1:47 pm

My ped said they see a fair amount of leg fractures from kids going down slides solo, also. I noticed with my son that if he’s wearing crocs then his foot sticks to the side (and then gets pulled behind him a bit) but doesn’t with regular shoes. I don’t put him in crocs anymore if we’re going to the playground as a precaution.

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11 Carolyn June 18, 2014 at 2:07 pm

I’m not saying it’s not a fact. I’m saying take the information and be especially carefully when going down the slide. But to stop doing it all together is silly.

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12 CaitlinHTP June 18, 2014 at 8:13 pm

A reader told me the same thing and I thought after how I have definitely caught Henry’s leg accidentally a few times!!! I think it’s just important to be super careful if you’re going to slide with them… I put him in my lap and tuck my hands under his knees so his legs are lifted up and held together. It’s seems like a good balance between letting little ones go alone (which is scary too!) and being unsafe when sliding together.

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13 Addie June 18, 2014 at 10:23 pm

My brother is a physician, and he’s weirdly not careful about anything with his kids, except this! But it’s still so so cute to see this post, what a lovely set of memories for you both. My kid will be there some day soon, and I love seeing what I have to look forward to!

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14 Grace June 19, 2014 at 8:30 am

I’ve got a friend this happened to! She was being super careful, holding his legs between hers and everything, and he just kicked out and she actually heard the bone break as they went down the slide. :( He was in a cast for months and she says she’ll never be able to forgive herself.

Since then, I’ve been totally evangelical about telling people about it – it’s one of those parenting things that most people don’t know about, like picking kids up by their hands instead of lifting them up under their arms (most people don’t realize that it’s the number one way to dislocate your toddler’s elbows or shoulders, I see people do it all the time and they have no idea that it’s terrible for their kids). It’s just something that a lot of people are unaware of, and have no idea that it’s unsafe.

What we did with my daughter when she was little was teach her to go down slides on her tummy. We never went down with her on a slide, and now she’s a total daredevil at the playground and will go down any slide, no matter how big. :)

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15 Kathleen Ojo @ My Ojos June 18, 2014 at 11:34 am

How wonderful that you’re documenting these beautiful moments. They’re so fleeting, and so sweet!

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16 coco June 18, 2014 at 1:21 pm

everytime mine asks my hand to walk with her, my heart feel moved… it’s such a beautiful age, isn’t it?

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17 Hallie June 18, 2014 at 5:43 pm

Mazen has had what appears to be eczema or some other skin condition for a *long* time. Please get that baby some ointment. His red and chapped cheeks look so uncomfortable.

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18 Kath June 18, 2014 at 7:29 pm

Oh really? I didn’t notice. I haven’t been trying ANY ointments at all or consulting with his doctors. Yep, just a negligent mother all around.

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19 Katie June 18, 2014 at 9:16 pm

That’s a little harsh Kath? The tone of the initial comment was a bit abrupt, however quite a long time back you mentioned the redness was down to teething. A lot of things, including allergies, can cause issues like eczema or redness, and many first-time parents aren’t necessarily aware of that. Given that his cheeks haven’t seemed have improved and he’s past the worst of the teething at this stage, I took this comment more as a caution to not assume what’s going on with his cheeks is normal and will clear up on its own.

You’re not at all obligated to share anything you don’t want to, but you have addressed this in the past so I guess I’m confused why you felt so affronted when it was mentioned now?

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20 Mary Ann June 18, 2014 at 9:23 pm

Don’t you love people who assume they know other peoples’ business? Lol. This also falls under the category of unsolicited advice, but since I prefer NOT to assume I know anything about what you’ve tried/haven’t tried, here goes: in case it’s helpful, California Calendula cream did WONDERS for our tiny one when a similar thing happened. It is pricey, but worth its weight in gold.

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21 Kath June 18, 2014 at 9:33 pm

:) I tried that one. Thanks!

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22 Mary Ann June 18, 2014 at 9:43 pm

Ahh, ok. Sorry! I’ll butt out now!

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23 Kath June 18, 2014 at 9:44 pm

No worries. Thanks for the suggestion

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24 Grace June 19, 2014 at 8:36 am

I’m sorry that you’re still having issues with Mazen’s cheeks. :( I’ve been a longtime reader and I think that anyone that has read your blog for a while would know that you’re definitely aware of it and have been trying to resolve it! It must be so frustrating.
For what it’s worth, my niece had eczema and rough looking cheeks for a long time, and my sister finally tried an elimination diet, and after 3 weeks with zero dairy, they finally cleared up. My neighbor’s little girls had terrible eczema, and she found that putting them on a gluten free diet took care of it. I’m not sure if you’ve looked into food sensitivities, but in my circle of moms, that seems to be the major culprit for eczema. I know it’s tough because you’ve got to go through long periods of food elimination (like weeks) to have whatever was causing the sensitivity clear their bodies, but for both of them, it was worth it. I hope that it resolves for him quickly!

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25 Ella June 19, 2014 at 12:57 am

Kath, I had cheeks just like Mazen’s when I was his age. My parents tried everything under the sun: lotions, homemade topical rubs, prescriptions, steroids, etc and EVERY SINGLE PERSON they knew and often didn’t know made comments. I wouldn’t wish this upon any child or parent. Keep your head up! Chances are he will grow out of it and be fine since you are working with a doctor and he isn’t more concerned. When I was 4 or 5, my skin really improved (turns out I had a severe food allergy that also effected my lungs and esophagus) and has been 100% ever since. Wish other readers would give you some slack and realize you only have your sweet little boy’s interests at heart!

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26 Lori June 27, 2014 at 5:48 pm

*like*

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27 MinnieB June 19, 2014 at 10:33 pm

Are you serious? Do you really think you care more about Mazen than his own mother does? Abosolutely hilarious… Just so you know, things like eczema and dermatitis cannot be resolved simply by applying some ointment. It can be due to immune response to just about anything Mazen comes in contact with including environmental factors you cannot control. Even if you applied cortisone cream it will only make it better for a few days. Many kids get them and they usually grow out of mild cases anyway. Gosh you’ll make hell of a MIL to some unlucky lady one day!

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28 Jeanie June 18, 2014 at 6:11 pm

Awww. So sweet.

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29 Addie June 18, 2014 at 9:27 pm

That last photo of you two is precious!

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30 Tori June 18, 2014 at 10:27 pm

Sorry you have to deal with comments like that, Kath. I guess having a public blog brings all kinds of unwelcome comments. You are a great mom! My youngest brother had red flakey cheeks and it turned out to be a food allergy. Soooo very hard to figure out! He is happy and healthy, and you and Matt are doing a great job.

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31 Darlene June 18, 2014 at 10:37 pm

I really enjoy your sites. I love little Mazen. He is lucky to have you. My son is 16 and I wish I had kept a journal for moments like you just described. So much is a blur. My husband has a better memory!

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32 lynne June 18, 2014 at 11:00 pm

I’m sorry you’re getting unsolicited advice. My child has also had continuing skin issues. Maybe a post discussing the trials and tribulations of such a nebulous problem would be helpful (or at least reassuring) to others!
Love that cheeky smile of his!!

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33 Shannon June 19, 2014 at 9:39 am

Such sweet moments. They grow too fast and you forget.. ITs nice that you have this documented! It also reminds me that I need to do the same! I have two boys- One who just turned 4 and another who just turned 1 and I wish I documented more (espcially with the 4 yr old).. However its not too late!

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34 Mary June 19, 2014 at 10:11 am

You rock, Kath! Love your blogs. Thank you for sharing about your life on these posts. This one made me tear up it was so sweet. I have a son Mazen’s age, and from your pics of your son, they remind me so much of each other. What a sweet time it is to be mom to a little boy (or girl, but I just have a boy). Way to document the moments like this – great idea! Sorry that people are giving unsolicited advice – makes me wonder sometimes why people feel entitled to do that. Have a wonderful day!

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35 Karen C June 20, 2014 at 10:19 am

Awwww I teared up!! I have a 9.5 month old girl, lauren..and I write little notes to her like this as well. Hoping that she is a mush ball like me and will enjoy reading about our memories when as grows up. The love we feel for these amazing little beings is so incredible. I sometimes choke up because I truly feel like my heart could burst when she smiles at me or reaches for me. Sigh !!- motherhood. :)

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36 jen June 20, 2014 at 1:15 pm

So so sweet. I’ll be so sad when those little hands stop reaching up for mine!

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37 jen June 21, 2014 at 1:42 pm

Also wanted to say that my 11 month old son has been struggling with excema on and off since birth. Its mostly behind his knees now, so at least we don’t have to deal with having people comment on it all the time. My heart goes out to you on that one. Its so difficult having a baby with any kind of health issue that doesn’t respond quickly and easily to standard treatment. Mine have both had weird gi stuff, and now I just can’t solve my boy’s excema despite doctor involvement etc. So frustrating! My best guess on my son at this point is that it’s some strange response to teething, because it, and his continuing tummy troubles, has really flared again now that molars are coming in. Docs disagree, but can’t seem to conquer either issue.

Best of luck to you in your struggles with Mazen’s gorgeous little chubby cheeks.

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38 Kath June 21, 2014 at 2:05 pm

Ours have been correlated to teething too, although it has lingered on after the molars are in. It’s worse after long cheek-in-the-sheet naps, so I still think it’s all related to drool! {We’ve changed our detergent to All Free & Clear and tried different brands of sheets}

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39 Amanda June 20, 2014 at 6:33 pm

Awww. My heart is bursting. What a doll.

My little son just started kissing because he wants to. I get a thrill each time he tilts his head and puckers his lips towards my face. We are so lucky.

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40 Jen June 21, 2014 at 10:22 am

Beautiful moments! <3

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41 Kelly June 21, 2014 at 11:28 pm

So sweet! They’re only little for so long;) and some of these comments crack me up…the slide and the first one about mazens cheeks and your comment-looooved it! Lol. Get a life people.

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42 Bonnie June 22, 2014 at 10:31 pm

I was shopping for shoes today, and was reminded of you:

http://www.6pm.com/amazen

“Amazen” shoes :)

PS- loved this post, very sweet. Sorry M’s cheeks haven’t cleared up completely :( I also had this issue when I was a baby / small child, and it did resolve on its own. I think no one even thought of food allergies back in the 80s… So that’s the only thing my parents didn’t try. I am lactose intolerant now, so mayyyybe this would have helped my cheeks back then?

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43 kath June 22, 2014 at 11:02 pm

Do you brush his teeth before naps? Maybe it’s something in his toothpaste he’s reacting to as he drools in his sleep?

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44 Kath June 23, 2014 at 6:58 am

Not before naps, just morning and night. Good hypothesis though

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45 Emily June 24, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Since you’re the organizing queen, I’d love some tips on how to organize baby/toddler gear- especially items they use for eating (cups, plates, etc…)

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46 Robin Melanie June 29, 2014 at 1:32 am

This is a beautiful, loving, very touching, sweet post. I have followed you for a few years, Kath, and I never once have questioned your parenting. It is apparent, obvious even, that you are a dedicated mom who adores Mazen and truly does all the best things for him. I’m really annoyed by the criticism here regarding Mazen’s rosy cheeks. Many children commonly have rosy cheeks–for whatever reason–so how can readers even focus on such an incidental aspect in this truly loving blog entry. I find them tacky and disrespectful, even unkind. I love your blogs as so very many of us do. Thank you for all you give to your readers and for so generously sharing and opening your life and heart to us. I look forward to reading about Mazen and seeing him grow. He is beautiful.

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47 Kath June 29, 2014 at 6:59 am

Thank you so much Robin

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48 Rachel June 29, 2014 at 4:49 am

Lovely blog- I hope you don’t take the negative comments on here to heart- I don’t know how people can be so judgemental and critical of others! Anyway Mazen is a lovely little boy :-)

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49 Laura July 7, 2014 at 12:29 pm

Sweet post! My little guy is just a few days younger than Mazen, so it’s been fun reading along through pregnancy to now.

Chiming in on unsolicited advice on stuff to try on his cheeks– CJ’s Butter (unscented). We cloth diapered for a bit and used this as diaper rash cream. Even though we’ve switched to disposables, we’ve continued using CJ’s on any rashes or irritated skin. It’s worked really great for Max (and I’ve used it, too!) and may be worth a try for Mazen if you haven’t already. The only downside is it can be a little greasy right after you put it on, so we usually do it about 20 minutes before bed.

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