One would think that my first action after a positive test would be to call Matt, and then my mom. But I wanted time to think and plan how I would share the news. So I went about my day with a secret.
Karen and I went out for a Christmas lunch and I kept the secret inside the whole time!
Actually the first person I told (after Caitlin) was my grandmother. Her birthday was the next day and I called her on my walk to the gym. I knew telling her would be a bit risky in the event that I was experiencing a chemical pregnancy, and as the phone was ringing, I still didn’t know if I would tell her or not. But the moment turned out to be too perfect when we were discussing her birthday and I asked her how she would like to be a great-grandmother for a birthday present. Of course she was THRILLED! I warned her that it was very early, and she said she would keep that in the back of her mind – and her lips sealed from my mom!
Telling The Dad-To-Be
I really wasn’t sure how Matt would handle the news. On the one hand, he’s wanted to be a father his whole life and, to put it frankly, he consented 🙂
But on the other hand, he claims he is just not that fond of babies and wishes we could skip babyhood and move into toddlerhood when they “become fun to watch and play with.” Unlike some of my friends’ spouses who were eager to have a baby, I didn’t think he would jump up and down with excitement. And that made me nervous.
I debated waiting until Christmas to tell him (5 days away), but I wanted to tell some of my friends and thought it was only right to tell him first. So I devised a plan.
Two cycles ago, Matt bought two bottles of an expensive Dogfish 120 IPA. At the time I was in an alcohol-free two week wait and so he decided to save it so we could drink it together.
“If you are not pregnant, we’ll drink it together that night. If you are pregnant, I’ll drink it to celebrate!”
We ended up drinking the first one when I got my period at the end of cycle 2.
So I knew he would know that if I got out the second Dogfish 120 that it would have that celebratory meaning. Caitlin actually came up with the idea to write “9 Month IPA” on the bottle, which I did, but as I suspected, Matt knew before even reading the label.
That night, we were putting the finishing touches on dinner. I was SO nervous!! I set up a candid camera on my tripod, hoping he wouldn’t notice because there are always cameras in the kitchen!
We put food on the table and just before we sat down, I reached into the fridge and as inconspicuously as I could, put the beer in his spot.
He walked around the table and before he even sat down, noticed it.
He looked at the beer, and then at me and said:
My answer was “Yes, read the label!”
There were several “I can’t believe its” exchanged. I then pulled out the tests, told him about the day’s events.
The Rest Of The Family
We wanted to continue creative tellings to our families. My mom and I are very close, and we talk on the phone daily. For the past 3 months, I had been sharing my symptoms and cycles with her so we could discuss them. At one point she even joked that she was having sympathetic pregnancy symptoms! But I had told her from day 1 that I wasn’t going to just call her up and say “I’m pregnant!” I wanted to do it in a memorable way.
So of course, the day I got the test, I lied: “Yeah, I just don’t think this is the month. I’m not feeling many symptoms anymore…..The tests are negative….my temperature is dropping….” It was HARD but I thought I did a pretty good job faking her out. And as much as I hated to lie, I knew it was for the best surprise!
The day I eventually did tell her, she actually said earlier on a phone call: “Well sweetsies, it’s probably just not the month. Unless you’re faking us out….” I thought she was on to me!! After we told her though, she said she wasn’t at all.
We had made plans to Skype with my parents on Christmas Eve so we could give them their Christmas present “in person.” Our gift this year was to treat our family to a vacation. I made a little invitation and put it in the mail. I told my mom it was coming and told her she was going to think it was pregnancy related but IT WAS NOT! (And when I told her this, I didn’t know I was pregnant, so it was the truth!) We could hardly wait to share the present with them – and give them our second gift of news too – so we somehow got them all on Skype a day early, December 23.
They opened the envelope for the trip and were all excited. Matt and I had discussed what he would say, but the right opportunity had to arise. There was some discussion about which week we would all be able to go, giving Matt his opportunity to say:
“Well, we really need to go in May or June because we’re going to have a baby in August!”
The Skype signal was a bit spotty, but I remember my mom gasping as loud as I’ve ever heard someone gasp. Oh how I wish I had recorded it! Being somewhat the ringleader of the family, mom went into a series of “oh my goshes” and said she absolutely couldn’t believe it followed by the comment that this was the biggest surprise of her life. She hasn’t stopped talking about it since! Mission accomplished!
Dad, Larbs and Matt were all full of smiles – I think they were all in a bit of shock! Larbs reportedly said she would have burst into tears if she hadn’t been on her way to a fancy Christmas party.
We told Karen and Matt’s brother Andrew the same way over Skype on Christmas. This time, while discussing our upcoming trip to Jamaica and the liters of Grey Goose vodka that would be free, Matt’s opportunity came with:
“Well I guess I’ll be drinking for the both of us because Koops is pregnant!”
Two more huge gasps – Karen and Andrew had the exact same reaction! They looked like twins leaning back in their chairs like they were on the downfall of a roller coaster. At the time they were in Alabama visiting Matt’s extended family, so all the extended family was in the room soon enough and people were yelling the news around the house.
Unfortunately we didn’t get to creatively surprise Matt’s dad and his wife Cheryl because Andrew was too excited and broke the news to them before we got to! But they were thrilled as well, and both being medical professionals, gave fun perspectives to how I was feeling.
Sharing my pregnancy with everyone has been my favorite part so far. Having a baby is such a joyful occasion that everyone’s responses are so fun to see! Especially when I shared the news with you all : )
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