29 Weeks: New Additions For The New Addition

Just a few new things we’ve gotten!!

First off, a wonderful collection of books from my grandmother!! Some great classics –  The Polar Express, Amelia Bedelia, The Lorax, The Little Prince, The Giving Tree, Mother Goose…and some great ones I haven’t read before too! It’s never too soon to start reading “big boy books.” : )

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Also from my talented grandmother – this cute painted chair!

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She had 4 of them – a butterfly, grasshopper, frog and snail – that she did for her church and passed them on to us this past weekend.

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Matt’s Father’s Day gift!!! I asked him what he wanted and he said “something primate” for the baby.  I was having a hard time finding a monkey that was “us.” When I saw this at the Seattle Fremont Market I HAD to buy it!!

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Matt aka Kanz is named after KANZI the bonobo, but we joke that his stride mimics a Neanderthal like the creature here. I think the creature is technically a bigfoot, but we’re going to pretend it’s a Neanderthal. (Plus he was an Anthro major in college and loves Neanderthals in general : ) )

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Lastly, my friend Lara gave me these little shoes that she used on her boys a few times. They are just like the Great Harvest logo!! Might be a year or more before our baby can wear them, but I will keep them tucked away!

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29 Weeks: The Paperwork

You often hear new parents exclaim: “I can’t believe I’m going to be responsible for another human.”

In general, I think this implies feeding, nurturing, bathing – simple life-sustaining needs.

But as the reality of babyhood sets in, I’ve realized there are other tasks that come with the job of parenthood. And some of them are not so pleasant not because they involve poop, but something worse: paperwork.

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Here is a list of things I have thought of that need to be considered when bringing a new life into the world. Please note I am not an expert on them – just compiling a list of things in my head that I probably should look into soon.

1) Health Insurance – My understanding from a call to my insurance company is that you have to have a baby before you can get him on your health insurance. Otherwise I would do this in advance! But I suppose the reasoning makes sense given the worst case scenario. I think an infant is an additional $75 or so to our coverage each month, which seems reasonable considering how many doctors visits he will probably need. I believe the person told me we have 30 days to get him enrolled after birth.

2) A Will – This is probably even more important/complicated if you are not married to the baby’s father, but in most states married couples pass on all of their assets to their spouse upon death, and then their children when both spouses die, unless stated otherwise. [I think!] So for a married couple family of three, it seems a bit unnecessary at this point. But what if we all died? I think it’s probably time to create one…

3) Guardianship – Speaking of the awful topic of double death, who would care for the baby if Matt and I died? This paperwork seems unlikely, but if the worst were to happen….. Probably another thing to get in legal writing. Hopefully we could combine this with will writing.

4) Life Insurance – Thankfully we got life insurance last year, and since we knew we were planning to start trying soon, we pretended we had a baby when we talked through how much coverage we would need. Again, this is a hard topic to think about, but if you died and your husband/partner couldn’t take care of the baby because of work, how much would childcare cost? And for how many years?

5) College Savings Plan – More paperwork!! Probably something that can wait a little bit, but not too long since the sooner you get started the better.

You moms have been so helpful sharing your advice for pregnancy and parenting, but I would love some advice when it comes to the legal and paperwork stuff. If you’ve just gone through it, is there any way to make these tasks a bit easier to do? And am I missing anything big?

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29 Weeks: Dream On

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This week my age matches the number of weeks I’ve been pregnant! (Well technically I’ve been pregnant for 27 of those weeks since the first two are just back tracked, but who is counting!?) It really feels like I JUST found out I was pregnant, and when I think about the amount of time that has passed, I really find it hard to believe. That said, I still don’t believe it’s JUNE. Feels like March. I feel a bit like I’m living in a dream.

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I am absolutely loving the baby movements now. He seems to be the most active at night! After dinner, it’s like he gets a dose of energy and becomes nocturnal. The other night I told Matt to put his hands on either side of my stomach and the baby went CRAZY – bouncing back and forth. It’s kind of hard to believe! I can also feel slight shifts in his weight in there – a little swim from the left side to right – as well as bigger, more dramatic shifts that you can see from the outside and of course the lovely big kicks/nudges he does. I think I am feeling his little backside sometimes when a part of my stomach gets really hard and heavy – it feels like a baby’s bottom! By far my favorite movement, though, is when a limb comes to the surface and I get to play with it! Sometimes these are whole limbs. It makes him seem the most real. Sometimes they even hurt a little – bone is hard! This is where I always feel it:

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One day this week I hadn’t felt him move in a while and wondered what he was doing, so I lifted up my bump and put it back down and he lurched!! I think he was sleeping and I woke him up. It was the most direct interaction I’ve had yet.

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I’m amazed at how much my bump changes not only morning to night but day to day. After both of my trips, I must have come home with water weight because I felt huge, but then within a few days I felt much smaller. And one day I sucked in and swore I looked like I was back at 16 weeks. Crazy! I think it depends not only on how much water weight I’m carrying but his position as well.

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Physically I’ve been feeling great. My back pain is nearly all gone, and even the hip aches have lessened a bit this week. I have yet to experience heartburn or having to pee at night 10x. However, earlier this week and at the end of 28 weeks, insomnia kicked in. I would wake up in the middle of the night totally wired and awake – a few times lasting hours. After talking to my doula about this, she suggested almonds before bed to help control my blood sugar a bit better and keep me from waking up due to hunger. I’ve been snacking on 10-20 almonds after I read in bed for a while and magically, I’m sleeping through the night again. It could have just been a phase, so I’ll have to skip them soon and see if I sleep restlessly again.

[Note if I had taken these at 9pm my stomach would be about 25% bigger!]

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This was the first week at yoga I said “I don’t think I’m having any bad symptoms this week!” Knock on wood, things are going great right now physically. Just focusing on all those kicks!

Next week = Big Mama Week!

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29 Weeks: The Beauty Of Baby

Faith recently sent me this video that had me totally mesmerized. Not only from the beauty of the bath ritual but because the baby was just so tiny and cute and had me thinking about my own.

I would like a bath like this myself!

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29 Weeks: Divide + Conquer

As you already know, Matt and I have pretty non-traditional jobs. We’re lucky to own both of our businesses and be able to make decisions about our schedules how we want. The only drawback is that no one is there to do our jobs if we’re not, so the show must go on!

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While Matt doesn’t really get a formal paternity leave from his own business, I imagine he’ll be home a lot the first week or so since we’ve been able to take vacations. We really don’t know how things will go in the weeks beyond. I imagine we’ll figure it out as we go and we discover when and how we might want to tag-team responsibilities. Matt generally works from about 7am to 6pm, 6 days a week, although he has been coming home a bit earlier recently and has been able to take some vacations as well. He really enjoys his work and it’s casual being the boss, so he doesn’t feel like it’s been too much or too draining working that many hours. He really has the ability to adjust his schedule however he wants, but certain days of the week are more demanding than others (like Mondays are errand days, Saturdays are city market days, Fridays are slammed busy, etc.). And he has a huge pile of tasks to accomplish every week like scheduling, payroll, inventory, ingredient ordering and more, but they can be done pretty much at any time during the week. The bakery really runs best when he’s there (and owner presence is very important to us) so working from home most of the time isn’t something he’d choose even though he could easily do a lot of the work there.
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I am fortunate to have an extremely flexible schedule as well. I intend to keep both blogs going without too much interruption as we get settled. The question mark will be – what will they be like? KERF might drop to two posts a day (or even one until I get in my groove) and my meal content and frequency will probably change a lot. But with one camera or another, I hope to keep capturing my life through food. KERF’s goal has always been to share a real food diet within the context of life. Life’s pace has slowed down a lot (much to my happiness) since I finished my internship and the bakery opened, but it’s about to get very busy again and I will face new food and blogging challenges. After all, I have to keep eating!

BERF will probably become mostly a photo blog of our life with the baby – with content posts scattered here and there as time permits. I started it for fun, not to stress myself out, so if I’m feeling overwhelmed, I’ll probably slow blogging pace on BERF and keep KERF the priority. But photos are really easy – text is not! At the least, I’d love to capture our first year as a family in photos. But my ultimate goal is to include lots of content, reviews and discussion as well.

Aside from my blogs, I plan to devote most of my time to the baby once he arrives, giving up many of the freelance writing projects and bakery jobs that I have done between blog posts over the past few years. And sadly most of my traveling and blog conferences – at least for the first year.

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I imagine that Matt and I might work out a schedule of sorts after nursing becomes less frequent where he is 100% dad a morning, afternoon, day or multiples each week and I take some time to myself to get out of the house and write in a coffee shop or work at the bakery. Or maybe just go grocery shopping or for a run! That will give us a chance to change roles and will give him quality dad time and a break from his job. And hopefully Grandma KK will be fun for the baby to play with for an afternoon or so too : )

I’d love to hear your thoughts: how do you divide tasks with your spouse or partner? Or if you are a single parent, what tricks have you found help you take care of the baby, house and yourself?

Any tips or strategies to share with a new mom-to-be?

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29 Weeks: Saturday Snapshots

This too, too cute onesie was a gift from our neighbors. I think our boy is going to be wearing vegetables more than any other design! Hope he likes to eat them too : )

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It’s from oliver.handmade by Emily Moore, sold through my neighbor’s online gift shop, Red Bud Gifts.

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