23 Weeks: Surprises

Things that have surprised me about being pregnant:

1) That you spend over half of your pregnancy without a bump.

I’ve mentioned this before, but it was really so unexpected. I never really given much thought to the process of pregnancy. I knew ~9+ months and 40 weeks, but if you had said “I’m 16 weeks” to me, it wouldn’t have meant much back then. I thought bumps showed up early in the second trimester and most of pregnancy was spent waddling around huge. I’m now 2.5 months into the second trimester and juuuuuuust now looking pregnant. I know every woman shows differently, but I’m also surprised that someone with such short stature would take so long to look pregnant. Or that I would even care! But surprisingly, I do. And I’m glad the little guy is taking up more space.

2) That morning sickness was even worse than I was prepared for.

Most people know that morning sickness = nausea and sometimes vomiting. But the thought of those two things just isn’t that bad. It’s like you don’t remember how bad nausea is until you HAVE IT! I figured I might wake up feeling a little off and have some toast and feel great. But I was surprised at how hard it hit me all.day.long. Again, this doesn’t happen to all women, but I think over 75% experience some form of morning sickness, and even a little nausea is pretty awful to live with. This makes me wonder if labor is also going to be much worse than I think it is….oh dear.

3) That the baby moving really does feel weird!

As much as I love connecting with him through movements, sometimes, in certain positions, it kind of freaks me out that there’s something alliiiiiivvveee in me. People always say “I think it would feel like an alien!” but I never really thought it would. Until I really did feel the movements. And they do feel like an alien!! But at the same time, so cute!! The more I feel them, the more baby-like they get and the more fun they are to experience.

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4) That I really don’t miss alcohol, runny eggs, cold smoked salmon and the like.

Well I do miss the act of swirling a glass of red around during cocktail hour with friends, but it’s hard to believe I haven’t had a buzz (or hangover!) in 6 months. If you asked me “Do you want a glass of wine” I’d say that yes, I do want one and am sad I can’t partake in the in the social aspect or the fun to tasting different flavors and varieties. But I don’t really miss any of the effects of alcohol.  Makes me really wish there were more alcohol-free drinks that tasted as delicious and complex as the real deal out there!  It’s more the culinary aspect of it that I miss. Perhaps all the creative mocktails I’ve had in restaurants and things have helped fill the need for a social drink. And I hope that once I am able to partake in tasting again, I can do more sipping and tasting and  guzzling. I have the same sentiments toward runny eggs – as much as I like them, I really don’t miss them. Fully cooked eggs taste just as good to me. If anything, it’s just the fun of seeing where the yolk will run that I miss! And finally, as much as vegetables made me gag from weeks 6 to 15, I really DID miss vegetables in the first trimester. I’m glad they are back. They don’t taste as delicious as they used to, but they taste good again.

5) That I’d make so many good mom friends before becoming one myself.

I am so thankful for all of my mom friends! They are a wealth of advice and experience! I’d encourage any pregnant woman to seek out a mother’s group that welcomes you or have your friends with kids introduce you to other women and schedule a lunch date. Even though I have had lots of babysitting experience in my life, being around these new babies has just been a nice way to ease into having my own.

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6) That I would be so excited and not nervous at all.

Before I was married, when I imagined my wedding day and walking down the aisle, I would get so nervous. Even during the rehearsal, I was a ball of nerves about that walk. But on my actual wedding day, I was so EXCITED to walk down the aisle that all nervousness was overpowered with joy. I’m guessing something similar is going on now. The excitement overpowers the nervousness. That’s not to say I’m not a little unsure about what’s to come but just that I’m really looking forward to the whole experience and that eases my fears.

7) That I’m having a boy.

For some reason I had always pictured myself the mom of daughters. Probably because I am a daughter and a sister. But this guy is no gal!! And the more I think about him as a he, the more I can just tell it was meant to be (and I don’t really believe in things being meant to be). I’m so excited to be this boy’s mom, and I can’t wait to meet him! Maybe the fact that we have three boy bears was foreshadowing : )

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What parts of pregnancy took you by surprise?

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17 Weeks: Live and Jive

If you hadn’t noticed, we’re blogging live now! Well, at least for the week. Running two blogs is even harder than I thought – but mostly because BERF takes a bit more focus and preparation to write. So I’ll probably always be a day or so ahead and will have some topical posts pre-written. I’m really enjoying the new blog though, and am so glad I decided to separate the two!

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I’m also still finding my groove for how I want to organic organize my thoughts each week. For the most part I’m doing 2 posts that are more physical/symptoms/bumps and that leaves 5 more topical posts, which is a lot to fill now that I have 7 slots per week to fill now! I might drop back to 5 posts a week – perhaps I will take off the weekends as I move forward. Or maybe just a photo of the day or something simple : )

So what’s happened since we last spoke?

Bump Update

I am still totally amazed at how it feels to have my body changing like this. It’s unlike any other experience I’ve gone through (obviously!) and I think the science of it all is still my favorite part of being pregnant (which will probably change once I can really interact with my baby from the outside!)

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There are multiple types of movements that I’ve felt….starting [I think] around week 12. I don’t think they’ve really changed much since I started to notice them that early, but I have noticed this week some new sensations that I’m feeling as I’m going throughout my day – a tap in the car, a vibration while I’m typing. Before I had to be completely still to feel them, but I’m starting to notice them more of the time. It’s weird though because if I’m moving too, it’s hard to know if what I felt was the baby or just a GI thing or my mind playing tricks on me!

Different movement feelings have included:

Vibration – A very, very faint vibration. Like I could tell something was moving inside of me but I had no idea how or what it was doing.

Tickling – This was also one of the first sensations I felt. A few times I woke up to tickling and wondered even if I had imagined it.

Taps – These are happening more and more. Just a tap or two taps in a row. Usually to the front of my stomach. They are very faint. I’m guessing these will turn into kicks?

Fishies – I can’t really describe this other than it feels like a bubble or fish is moving through liquid. Perhaps this is a roll or flip?

Stomach Drops – You know the feeling as you descend a roller-coaster when your stomach drops? I’ve felt this a handful of times randomly. I’m assuming it’s baby-related and it’s also the newest sensation.

The movements seem to be strongest at night. When I wake up in the morning, my body seems to be free of the water weight that accumulates during the day and my uterus is RIGHT near my skin and oh-so-huge and hard. I have also noticed that it’s totally lopsided!! I don’t think my little turnip is big enough to be hanging out on one side or another yet like babies do in the later months, so I have no idea. By the time I get up and going, it seems pretty even. Maybe I like to sleep on my right side more than my left and everything shifts!?

So when I wake up, I put my hands all over my belly and see what grew in the night. It changes so much day to day. MANY times I have put my hands there and felt some strong movements – until I realize I’m really just feeling my heartbeat in both my stomach and my fingertips!! Someday it will be a baby… : )

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